Would you date a 30 year old woman who is a virgin? Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

She’s not weird, socially awkward or a walking red flag. She just hasn’t met that person yet.

[SteveSmith1985]

Sure, if she seemed like a girl I liked. The fact that she's a virgin wouldn't bother me. The only way its relevant would be in terms of the sexual pacing of the relationship.

That may or may not be relevant depending on where you're coming from. Presumably a virgin would want to progress at a slower pace physically. (but I could be totally wrong about this).

Personally, I would have no problem taking it slower if I liked the girl.

If she were intent on saving herself for marriage (not the impression I get from what you wrote. But could be the case)... That might cause me to hesitate, but... ultimately I think I still would if it were the right girl.

This is not a problem for me, if it's the right person.

[Nahid1707]

Perfectly okay if she is a virgin. Don’t let negativity get to you.

[OneViewpoint]

NOPE! In my mind (rightly or wrongly) I associate a 30 year old virgin with abnormal personality development and socialization. Religion, fear, bad childhood, whatever. I don't care. I'm not taking on a "project" that may take years and ultimately fail no matter what I do. I'm not tiptoeing around their "needs" and catering to their abnormal "feelings" while suppressing my own.

[Zack-Bann]

Depends on her stance on the matter


If she intends to keep her streak going no thanks
(Been there done that and it wasn’t fun)


If she’s interested in sex and willing to give it a legitimate shot. I would love to (assuming we also get along outside of that)

[Orion84]

I wouldn't immediately reject her, no, but I would want her to know that physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship for me.

It's obviously not the most important aspect, but I don't want a celibate relationship, either. I could end up being "the one" for her, but I wouldn't want her to feel pressured, either.

I respect her decision to save herself, but it sounds like we might not be compatible.

[slatyb]

Maybe, but I would wonder why she has abstained for so long. Maybe she's just not that interested in sex. If she wanted to wait until marriage, then no.

[Berethor]

Sure, even if she weird and socially awkward, I don't want a dirty girl, virgin girls are pure.

[Oldschool1981]

Sure, why not? I once dated a prostitute, so this would be the extreme opposite.

[AnonAndrew]

I prefer a woman with experience, but if she's a great woman and has other qualities to make up for her lack of experience, then sure.

[Pterodon]

I met a 29 year old virgin on this very site. She was 25 years younger than me. We had a very serious 4 year relationship

[genericname85]

sure. i mean i would be curious why she's still a virgin at that age but it's not a deal breaker. it's sort of a yellow flag. could be a problem or not depending on the reason for it.

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to qualify it with, not a virgin". I would imagine that'd be most 30 yr. Old women. And the answer to your question is, "it wouldn't be my first choice, but yeah".

[Asker]

I didn’t write “not a virgin”.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, my bad. "Not" is below "a virgin" in it's placement on the question. I must have look at it too quickly and misread.

[MrChinaski]

This question seems to come up. a. nobody cares if you are a virgin, b. if anything i is a slight positive.

[BarryLiverstone]

When would I learn that she’s a virgin? Seems like that’s personal and wouldn’t find out on the first date

[Asker]

Well let’s say you found out on the third date. Would you continue to date her afterwards?

[BarryLiverstone]

Probably. Because by the third date I would have found her attractive and found enough things in common to take her out and learn more about her. We would have kissed already right?

[BarryLiverstone]

But if she told me on the 3rd date that she never plans to have sex, probably not tbh. Why is she a virgin

[Asker]

She’s a Christian, waiting for marriage.

[BarryLiverstone]

Makes sense, so if she told me she’s a virgin on date 3. I would ask what are her boundaries and how far could she go and still keep her promise to God. Im also a Christian and I wanted to be a virgin until marriage originally so I get it. But assume as a couple we could kiss and do other things yk

[BarryLiverstone]

What would she say is something she would not do before getting married? Would it be intercourse or other acts of foreplay like oral?

[Asker]

She has a pretty high sex drive and deeply desires to have sex but also wants to please God. I’d personally be interested to know why you ended up not waiting for marriage, but that might be deeply personal.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes it is. You can follow me on here and I’ll share my story

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes as Christians we are called to please God

[Asker]

Just followed you. Still xper1, can’t message you first.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep, cause that's not a bad thing

[Anonymous]

if she's saving for marriage or asexual, then its a red flag

[Fireguy17]

No, because I'm too old to be with a 30 year old.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of men would date her

[EmmiL]

Any man who wouldn't is a fool

[Shrimpenjoyer]

You think the same for women?

[BobbyLee789]

Because I'd like to teach her

[shortster]

Yes.

[Luckycharms12]

nope I wouldn't tbh

[EmmiL]

Disgusting, you like old creepy women instead

[Luckycharms12]

oooh ya big time

[EmmiL]

You are odd, that's so nasty. Younger women are always superior to the old women you like