Should you bring up certain things that make you upset or a bit uneasy when you’re in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Like for example there’s this guy I’ve been talking to a little over 2 months he’s unexperienced, and I get that. But when I went over to his place I gave him head, and I knew he wanted to try touching me down there but then he froze up and made a comment saying ‘ew it feels like a snail’ and that threw me off. And after that he just turned around and slept. He later woke up and went out for breakfast with his mom and sister cause they came to visit, and I asked if it was OK if I just like chilled at his place for a bit and he said that’s fine but he ended up coming a bit earlier with both of them, when he saw I was still there, he said, ‘I think you should’ve left earlier, now they’re going to see you.’ It made me feel like I was in the way or like I did something wrong just by being there. But should I bring it up cause it still made me feel underappreciated and a bit disrespected


And mind you we’re both 18 with little to no experience

[ohsheeT]

Can I ask you why you want to be with a guy that doesn't want to be seen with you.

And then why do you want to be with a guy that doesn't even try to please you.

I can't tell you what to do but he's the wrong guy for you I guarantee you that no matter what happens it's going to be all about him.

[Asker]

His mom and his sister do know about me but I spoke to him about that and he said ‘I know your nervous about meeting my sibling/mom and stuff so I was thinking for you I guess’
And he did try but I don’t think he’s ready for it

[ohsheeT]

I see wel I hope when he That's decided he's ready that he does make it all about you and not about himself. There are other ways where you can help him get ready, and he won't be able to turn you down. If you do it this way, then just also make sure that you are protected in eastward protection. Just because you have a long life ahead of you.

And sometimes, just because we believe we are with one that we're going to be with forever doesn't always end up being that way

So you have to always be thinking ahead and protect yourself

[Asker]

Thank you 😊

[ohsheeT]

You're welcome. Yes, any time you feel something is not right or bugs you in a relationship. You have to talk about it

[Orion84]

If something's bothering you in a relationship, you should always mention it, yes. Not just the examples you gave, but anything.

It's better to discuss things early, before they have time to fester, and turn into resentment and anger. That way they can be dealt with, without being allowed to linger.

[Asker]

You’re right! Thank you

[Orion84]

You're welcome. I'm glad I could help. 🙂

[OneViewpoint]

Bring it up? The idiot was disrespectful and behaved like a child in bed and then when he botched introductions to his mom and sister. Bring it up in your goodbye message. Lack of experience is one thing. Lack of basic social awareness or skills and zero desire to learn is something that's not fixable. There's a reason some guys are incels.

[jahaims]

No, you are never supposed to communicate and bury all of your problems. Wtf kind of question is this. If you know this little you shouldn't even date until you more mature.

[Anonymous]

"It feels like a snail.😆😆😆

I swear you splittails and the guys you choose to date.😆😆😆

[ballweevil]

that would be the best, but in reality we all just keep our mouth shut