What annoys you when you are in a romantic relationship?

[Optimistic227]

What annoys you when you are in a romantic relationship?

[sheenagwapa]

belittlinh me... judging me. i am dizzy due to my rhinitis but it's hard for me to heal because some asshole is blockinh my healinh. anyway i'm beinh tagged as immature but despite my hellish struggles (due to my passion to help people which by the way i am beinh judgef that i don't care anout othet people)


still i was able to DETECT the toxic culture of western people the cause why they just wannaoften kill themselves.


lack of belief in God. don't get me wrong i don't gate western culture but if you don't have a God in your life that is a big blow on your psych. INSECURITY AND SHAME will be cancer to your mental health


i don't remember anymore what i've realized but it's on that line. by the way i just wanna say i am super thankful for everyone who helped me deal with my ocd. thise times i feel hopeless the thought of having my mental experts watching over me really helped me to fight for my life. yes ocd is a cruel illness it feels like fighting for tour life.


and my faith in God at that time isn't that steong so the mental experts really helped me fight for my life now my faith is really stronger than ever that's why if i die at this moment my last words really would be please believe in Jesus. Adam, Tolga everyone who helped me thry were sent by God to be my rescue


if you are struggling with public perception because western culture is all about image isn't it? that's why tou guys are depressed because of your insecurities and the shameful things you have done which all points to that you are worrying about your public image the root cause of your mental cancer


so reqlly the best things you guys can do is the ff:
- accept this TRUTH that regardless of your sins, all the shameful things you've done in the past you are brand new with Christ.

- that your identity is in Christ no one has the right to mock you because you are created by God, you are His adopted children and you are so preciosly love that Gid send his duplicate/son Jesus to suffer and due for you. i had a small cut in my fingers and it hirt so freaking bad. that cut cause me to bleed tremendously.
so jisr imagine what Jesus have to go through
- since you are created by
God so embrace diversity. love and respect other peoplewho are different from you because God intended to create in such a way
- when it comes to public perception or attraction why not experiment, skies the limit when it comes to this but LOVE YOURSELF. don't be a slave to the approval of other people. good friends will stay bad friends will go.


LAST BUT CERTAINLY NOT THE LEASR AND THE MOST IMPORTANT OF THESE ALL REMEMBER THAT GOD PROVIDES... the most important relationship yoy can have is your relationship with God. loving yourself is not enoigh you will still be a huge slave of public perception/image but if you believe that God provides it's a strong defense to public perception. it's not just a defense it's the TRUTH. and teusr me Jesus is real i've been reviewing,
finding loopholes but i can no longer deny Him


God provides is not easy to difest especially someone loke me who is obsessed in certainty but i know what i'm talking about. gosh i have to copy and paste this as wustion

[Rosexøxø]

What annoyed me most, is when he would HAVE time and not give it.

I knew we were polar opposites, but you’d think he WAS THE PRESIDENT,

and then… you’d assume I’d have to consequentially, book an appointment.

Now get this… before when HE wanted MY social media, and to talk MORE with meeee, being the old geezer he was…

he’d text all the time and open my messages, AS I was typing. It did freak me out, but I got used to it and came to appreciate it, but then by the end of it, we were playing text message “phone tag.”

Literally as follows:

Him: hey I never heard my phone ring

(probably because you're FUCKING OLDDD) I wish, right? Lol

me: are you awake

(no question mark. Just done lol)

him: yes

me: did you go back to sleep

😂 lol 3 hours time difference but the man goes to sleep around 3 and wakes up around 4 - I’m exaggerating, but you get the idea of how bizarre it was to miss this person.

THIS was my newly discovered pet peeve- in a romantic relationship.

We’re talking chats in the early a. m.’s and intervals of DAYS like 3 days and such.

Do I want to say his name and put him on blast? I kinda do…

Will I? I won’t 😂

But he does need his own comedy show.. HE doessssss.

[Anonymous]

Annoyances in a romantic relationship can vary from person to person, but here are some common things that can be annoying:

1. Lack of communication: Communication is key in any relationship, and a lack of communication can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and annoyance.

2. Disrespectful or dismissive behavior: Feeling disrespected or dismissed by a partner can be hurtful and annoying, and can erode the trust and respect in the relationship.

3. Differences in personality or preferences: While it's natural to have differences in personality or preferences in a relationship, these differences can also be a source of annoyance or frustration.

4. Neglect or lack of effort: Feeling like a partner is neglecting the relationship or not putting in effort can be frustrating and annoying.

5. Lack of boundaries: Feeling like a partner is crossing boundaries or not respecting your boundaries can be annoying and even damaging to the relationship.

It's important to communicate openly and honestly about any annoyances or frustrations in a relationship, and to work with your partner to find solutions that work for both of you. Remember that every relationship is unique, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and set boundaries that feel comfortable for you.

[Guy13]

Saying one thing meaning something else and having to guess or figure what they are saying or need and “you really do not know me at all. “

[jennifer_bloom]

One thing is when a guy makes me insecure, either a female friend he’s too close too, not talking on a regular basis, being stingy when he can afford to buy me coffee, or getting angry for silly reasons, such as messy writing or imperfect house cleaning.

[CubsterShura]

Lack of responsibility for your own desires and your own actions.

I don't expect my man to be perfect, but I do expect him to own up to his imperfections and work on improving himself. I can't date a child who wants to argue that his toxic behavior is just who he is.

You can't demand or expect something from your partner if you aren't doing anything on your part to build the right environment for it. You want to be a father with many children? Are you able to handle taking care of your wife during pregnancy and postpartum and be by her side when she is going through any health complications? Will you go with her on her appointments? Give her emotional support and get her food that she craves? Can you make it easier on her end by taking part in the household chores and childrearing yourself too, or at least hire nannies/maids to make her life easier or will you just keep impregnate her and everything else that happens is her job to maintain and you are too good to change diapers yourself because that's not "your job"? And when she says it's very tough for her and she wants no more kids you will make her feel like shit for that?

You want your wife to look hot and be super well-groomed all the time, are you willing to handle the cost of all her nail and hair and wax appointments? Are you willing to take her shopping? No? And you still feel entitled to her just doing all that?

I could go on and on. If you want your plant to grow and bloom in flowers, you have to water it and fertilize it and take very good care of it!

[HelpMe06]

I get annoyed when they don’t know how to still have their own life. I don’t like it when they stop hanging out with their friends and stop their hobbies because they want to be with me all the time. Boys nights for them are a must and vice versa with me and my friends. otherwise they get too clingy and needy and lose parts of themselves. Also get annoyed when the effort stops because they feel like they have you and they no longer need to impress you. Once the effort stops the relationship dies.

[Heterosketero]

That is fantastic, thank you for writing that. If 28 year old me could have read this, I may have saved one the best relationahips that never worked out. It is also refreshing, because you usually hear the opposite, which most people know is bullshit. Have a life. Exactly what I am looking for now, space to breathe in a long term relationship.

You a Virgo by chance? Asking out of intellectual curiousity, as it would not be appropriate for me to flirt.

[HelpMe06]

@Heterosketero Nope I am a Sagittarius :)

[ElGato31]

When something bothers you, just f#cking say something. If you don't know the answer to my question, or you don't want to answer, just say that. If you are busy/tired/fed up of life etc, just send a 5 second text message "I'm good, just need some alone time, text you at the weekend" 5 second and done, and not leaving me hanging.

Silence pisses me off.

[CreatingWonders]

What annoyed me is when she’d spend hours gaming and ignore me I gave my time to her yet she couldn’t do the same, I’d drop everything to help her through a meltdown or a panic attack yet she couldn’t do the same for me, it also annoyed me when she couldn’t take responsibility for her actions and blamed me for everything.

[Gibbons44]

Any level of jealousy games she might play, and any level of physical contact with any other male she might have (even if it is only her way to show me how gentle she feels about me by touching someone she feels comfortable being that way to).

The only right thing for her to do is to get comfortable being gentle/physical with ME - not with ANY other male. Not with her brother, not with her father, not with a priest - ONLY ME!

[Anonymous]

DRY TEXTS or not being interested in what you're talking about. for example, if i was talking about their day what would annoy me would be if b says 'ok' or 'cool' like you have to AT LEAST act interested. or if you say i love you and they say 'love you' like WTF IS LOVE YOU?

[sixsixsix]

When the only thing she does is keep her fave in her phone but when I get on mine and she wanting attention she would bitch and comment your always on your phone... no bitch you just never set yours down long enough to notice anything.
Or when she in the phone and I here her saying "yeah James said hi too" ... bitch no he didn't, I don't even like that fucking person and I didn't say hi.

[Anemone978]

Getting lazy with the relationship like not wanting to go on dates anymore or do fun things together. Not having anything to say to me but when someone calls he would have hour conversations with them...

[Anonymous]

Inconsistency. I don't tolerate it. I don't need constant attention or anything, and I'm not going constantly give it. But I need to know that I am a priority of hers otherwise what are we doing? She she should expect no less either. If she wants to have a partner only in name then I'm not the guy.

[Anonymous]

Argh! The whole nonsensical drama they're so into. Making huge arguments about the most dumbest and irrelevant things I might start believing some specters make women volatile and crazy.

If y'all so bored to death, that y'all need to make arguments about sand grains, just say it. We are too occupied making sure we're bringing in some money in order to not fucking starve to death or getting sicker.

y'all have your ladies nights. Go argue about sand grains with them.

[Rosexøxø]

What about sand grains? I won’t argue but I’m curious lol

[Opinion Owner]

@Rosexøxø
Funny you ask. No girl has argued with me about sand grains yet but there are girls out there, who'd fabricate anything insignificant to argue about when alternatively I'd consider "i wanna tune out now. Now what music shall i put on and which flavor of essential oils shall I use for my aromatherapy?".

If it's not sand grains, then it would be about anything else, that has nothing to do with eating, drinking, getting richer, not getting sick (or addressing health issues), having fun, relaxation, home improvements, you name it. Fill in the blank :)

[Opinion Owner]

The exception of course would be if the girl is an archeologist or constructor worker or chip manufacturer or otherwise her profession or passion is tied to sand and sand grains quality.

But arguing with me about irrelevant things like sand grains is the same as a beautician arguing with a hillbilly about skincare unless said hillbilly (at this point it would be a farmer then and not a hillbilly) is into beauty or skincare.

[Opinion Owner]

[Rosexøxø]

But aren’t we all like grains of sand? In the grAND Scheme of things? 🤔

😄 no, I’m just messing with ya lmao

I figure also may enthusiasts on sand/nature/life/science/ philosophy would enjoy that topic of conversation.

Nonetheless, I see your point!

Perhaps also the hillbilly could use a free skin care treatment. Maybe he’d know about mud baths and could recommend it to the beautician?

Maybe she’d know a thing or two about sanitizing the meats, before processing and

He could get a free spa and she could get a free ham.

And Voila! 👐😃 It’s the Andy Griffith show and the town of Mayberry! 😂 (I don’t remember the town name, actually).

I think some level of relatability and understanding is good but you’re right just picking topics out of thin air to justify things seems a bit much. For an in depth argument the credible yet foreign topics, if they correlate somehow, would be alright, but if they aren’t credible and don’t correlate in anyway, yeah, I’d say that’s a real waste of time :\

Especially if the argument is supposed to be a bit quick to find some resolved. (Time sensitive, I suppose).

[Opinion Owner]

@Rosexøxø

"But aren’t we all like grains of sand? In the grAND Scheme of things?"

Yes, you are correct on that. But we can stay optimistic still and relish what we can get out of life. Easier said than done but nevertheless. Doesn't mean there's no point going to the beach for a swim and enjoy getting them sand grains wrapping on our feet.

I took sand grains as an example topic but once we dive a little deeper into it, you do raise good points. I see you are intelligent about this matter. That I like. Yeah, so like if it's of any relevance (them sand grains), then why not.

I have yet to meet a hillbilly being into skin care. But you know what? Like never say never. You raise an interesting point about that hillbilly and beautician giving benefits to each other now that you mention it. Hah! I like you already 😄

In any case I may feel relieved, that there are girls out there, who see it the same way, that some minor/irrelevant arguments are best left untouched before doing something somebody (she?) will regret doing. I sure aim to not do things I will regret 😁

[serious]

I cannot answer this because I have always been single. However, yes as a person there are many things I find annoying.

[Heterosketero]

Trying to change my style. Like, go date the fucking shirt if you love it so much. Also, never take my hats, we took things to the next level if you are wearing my hat.

[LivDev]

The fact men hate being crowded and I would fuse to him if I could.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Can’t think of it right now,

maybe I was the annoying one, haha!

[HappyWoman34]

Guys blowing hot and cold, game playing, too much sex, big penises, sulking, abuse.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

When she expects that all my free time should be dedicated to her.

[Fudgeinmycreampie]

All the. Stupid girls who who would try try I would be like sorry he’s taken.

[Optimistic227]

Hahaha!

[TacosRAwesome]

When I want to sleep or eat and they keep talking.

[Anonymous]

When they think we are one, and don't have separate identities, and thus expect everything to be "ours", and now they think they have the right to violate your privacy.

I am still my own individual self.

[htmndg183]

The constant texting and calls. The fights over petty things. Being in the wrong always when im not.

[Backwood1988]

Good morning how are y'all ladies doing this morning

[PainusNdeeAnus]

PDA because I just have to deal with it even though I’m not an affectionate man

[Anonymous]

The expectations of sex when he can’t even provide his emotions or time.

[TrueConfection]

Being woken up by loud snoring.

[Optimistic227]

What the fuck? Hahahahaha!

[TrueConfection]

Yup... It's really hard to fall back asleep.

[sixsixsix]

I understand that one because damn jail has a hundred snoring motherfuckers man and I wanted to hit every one of them so they would shut the fuck up

[Anonymous]

constantly waiting on them.

[notwoke]

weight gain, lack of sex, bad with money

[KathrynTaylor]

Cheapness.

[Anonymous]

The drama, the dumb arguments and not picking

[unique_philosopher]

Period 🤣🤣