Would you get mad if I set a boundarie?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy and we have bee talking for a week or so and since he lived near us he met my family the day after he tried to kiss me and i was like no because deep inside i did not expect that to happen so soon since i got out of a relationship a couple of moths ago and i said not now and he was like okay and leaned in again and i stopped him and sad not now once again tried to talk to him asked if he was mad he said no but then 3 days later he ghosted me and was talking to other girls. did i do something wrong

[Anonymous]

No you didn’t do anything wrong. There can be one of two things going on. One is that he felt rejected when you wouldn’t kiss him and a lot of men have a hard time accepting a NO. The other issue could be that he’s trying to rush things along into getting physical. He didn’t actually want to get serious with you just move things faster into bed. Either way you dodged a bullet. You don’t need a guy who’s more concerned with physical touches than actually getting to know you.

[Asker]

well said he made me feel like i was in the wrong but makes sense i for sure dodged a bullet

[Opinion Owner]

Gaslighting is easier than taking accountability, he was wrong he just doesn’t want to look like the asshole he is for prioritizing physical touch over genuine connection.

[Zack-Bann]

Your boundaries involved a slow pace and you’re allowed to want that. No can tell you otherwise


But he’s also allowed to prefer a faster showing of passion.
Some people function like that


The two of you weren’t compatible and he respected your wishes


All and all I would say no one should be mad.
It is what it is
But at least he was a gentleman about it

[slatyb]

You aren't ready to date, and you told him so. So he stopped trying to date you. What did you expect?

[Asker]

it wasn't that i didn't want to date he kinda forced everything to go faster than i expected and when i wanted it to slow down a bit he dindt like that ig

[slatyb]

Faster than you expected? You can expect whatever, but no one else has to wait for you. If you aren't ready to be kissed, then you should tell your suitors before the first date, not after. If you aren't ready to be kissed, then you aren't ready to date.

[Anonymous]

Mad is not the right word. You are allowed have boundaries, but guess what? So is he. You are allowed to stop him from kissing you. And he is allowed to ghost you for it. This isn't personal.

[CountryWanderer]

You did nothing wrong at all. You dodged a bullet