Is this my stupid anxiety brain?

[Ice_knight]

So my girlfriend is doing college right now. It lets out around nine thirty at the latest. We usually call and talk on the phone at night before bed. I messaged her at 9:40, saying I hope her class went well. She then told me she couldn't talk tonight because she was in the middle of cleaning. Then could talk if I didn't mind background noise. Wait, no, now she can't talk because she's going to nap. Am I just anxious? Something just doesn't feel right to me.

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I guess her not saying anything is what really bothers me. She was just going to not let me know I guess.

[MountainMetal]

Understand that anxiety is a tool, it let's you see possible points of failure without having to experience them yourself. But its not factual, its an emotion. She's you're girlfriend for a reason, she already likes you so just keep up the good work.

[Ice_knight]

I've just been burned and hurt several times. Think what bothered me the most was the whole can't talk, we can, no I'm going to nap happening within like two minutes. That and the the fact that she didn't even bother to let me know until I finally messaged her.

[MountainMetal]

It makes sense why you feel the way you do. If you are caught unaware and hurt, you are probably going to look for signs of betrayal more closely. Love needs trust to work, and unless she betrayed your trust intentionally, they always deserve the benefit of the doubt in every scenario.

[Ice_knight]

You're completely right. That's why I've been fighting eith myself over this. Like trying to force my brain to listen to me and not the anxiety.

[WhitneySnow]

She’s probably just busy

[WhitneySnow]

What did she not say?

[Ice_knight]

Yeah, I guess so. Don't know why she wouldn't have told me though. Also, kind of odd to say no I'm cleaning. Then we can, then to jump to no I am going to nap. All within a few minutes. I don't know.

[WhitneySnow]

Told you what? I don’t understand.

[Ice_knight]

We always make plans to talk at night. We did last night. She never said she couldn't until I ended up messaging her. She didn't even tell me she was out of class like she usually does. I don't know.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe something came up. If you’re really concerned, you should ask her straight up if anything was wrong the last time you guys talked.

[Ice_knight]

Yeah, I am going to sleep on it and stuff.

[WhitneySnow]

Okay.