Boyfriend Liking other girls Bikini photos?

[hdog101]

I have a boundary that in a relationship I dont tolerate my boyfriend to like other girls bikini photos. Especially girls that he had a past thing with or relationship with. However, after I told him that boundary about 3 months ago, I found out he's been liking other girls bikini photos still and his excuse was that "he sometimes mindlessly scrolls and Iikes things without realizing" or that "he like the girls bikini post because she was traveling to the same place we were at the same time in Spain" to me those excuses dont add up and aren't good enough. But he got upset at me because he feels im just constantly nit picking him apart and that he's been putting in so much effort to not like that type of stuff but no matter what he does isn't good enough and that my expectations are too high and that if he slips up once ill get mad at him. My argument is that even after having this conversation with him three months ago he's still crossing my boundary. But his argument is that he's been putting in the effort to try and not like that stuff and that sometimes he slips up. I dont know how to feel. Part of me feels like im being a bit ridiculous, but another part of me feels like im being manipulated. To me, guys only like girls bikini photos because they see what they like. His argument is that, thats not true and that just because he likes it doesn't mean he finds her attractive. And every time I bring up something I see, instead of just getting an apology and having a conversation he just gets very angry and defensive.

[Anonymous]

So maybe it’s just me, but after reading this it made me feel as though I’m the one who was getting lectured. So what I’m saying is part of me thinks yes you went overboard. I get the feeling that you didn’t talk w him, you talked at him. Like you have some sort of anger issues. I’m not saying what he did was right because yes although a lot of men check out other women, doesn’t mean we go around clicking on “likes” on social media. A lot of men are smarter than that. We keep that to ourselves. Men look, that’s how it is. But there’s a difference between looking (glance) vs staring. For him to say he just mindlessly hits “like” is a stupid ass thing to say. If that’s so then what else does he do mindlessly? Would this even be a man someone would want to be w? I will say though I have seen friends online who have posted pics on their vacations in a bikini who I did actually “like,” but that was based on where they were in the pic. I love traveling so yes I like to look at travel photos. Most people, especially women like to take pics of themselves in their pics. Doesn’t mean I like the girl cause if I’m being honest some of these girls aren’t that cute.

[ohsheeT]

I think you should listen to yourself. Your thinking what your thinking Because you are smarter than you're giving yourself credit's just pure disrespect what he's doing and you know that that's the reason why you're so angry

I can't tell you what to do. But you've already thought about it and you should probably follow When we are in A.
Relationship it's not to be in that type of one that's for sure

You can do a lot better and you know that There's no reason to be treated the way you're being treated

And that also includes the way you're treating yourself by living with it happening

This isn't about him anymore. It's about you and what kind of choice are you going to make because he's not going to change

[PeachyPie93]

Dump him.. Just like guys shouldn't date girls who post bikini pics and then tell them not to do that. Woman should not date guys who are following 500 instahoes and liking their pics then demand they change. You two are not compatible and should find other people.

[Nikki1989]

Most men are cheaters, have cheated, or are at least thinking about cheating. Not much you can do about that except find one of the rare ones that are not so prone to straying.

[Chazmatazz269]

If you think he’s lying and trying to hook up with other women because he likes their photos, dump him. You are nitpicking if you have that “boundary” just for the sake of holding it over his head when he’s already well within the limits of normally accepted behavior. If he liked women’s photos before he met you, it’s 100% on you for agreeing to be with him in the first place. That’s your problem, not his. You don’t own him and you don’t get to change his behavior to suit your insecurities.

[FunkyMonkee]

Most guys do. In most cases, it has NOTHING to do with how much they love you! Da loved looking at half naked, or completely naked, women and mom knew it but, she also knew that he was quite happily in love with and married to her!! Otherwise, they wouldn't have stayed married `til death and they wouldn't have been buried together (she took his ashes into the casket with her when they buried her).

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I mean it's just photos, if it's not working for you should separate ways.

You are in era of social awareness lot of things will be put onsites you cannot monitor him all the time.

And nobody can do anything about it.

[DannyUk2017]

What about when (you) that are Posting/Posing in less clothes? YOU GET THE ATTENTION? The Likes/Hearts, etc?

[JesseP1nk]

Emm... you draw the line... and stepped over it. You expect him to stay in line, next time you draw the line? Reminds me bit of this

https://www.youtube.com/embed/o6Ai7x1krew

[In_Trance]

I think you need to break up and fix yourself.
This is one of the most mundane and retarded boundaries I've ever heard of