I might be in the minority with my opinion here, but I think it is disrespectful if a guy does that kind of thing while in a relationship. Shouldn't he be admiring you instead of those bikini girls? I would give the adoration and admiration to my girlfriend and not to any other woman. If I'd go on liking random girls' pictures while I'm supposed to be exclusive, I'd be sending a message to my girlfriend that she's not good enough. Sure, in your case you've been dating him for less than 2 weeks and maybe he doesn't take your relationship seriously but still, I think he's being disrespectful towards you.
I disagree with the guys who say "he's just a male, he's going to look at other girls". While it's true that men's attraction towards women does not go away even if they're in a relationship or married, what they do with the (hopefully sudden and not deliberate) sensation of attraction is a whole another matter. If I suddenly see an attractive woman on the street even when I didn't mean to look at any other women, I will promptly make a decision to respect and cherish my SO and not think anything of the woman on the street. It all comes down to attitude and commitment, whether or not you want to respect the person you're with. And don't even get me started if the guy's lusting over other girls is deliberate..
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You're already an annoying girlfriend. But that's besides the point - if you don't like it that's your prerogative.
Guys will look. The problem is he's seeking them out, so he's just getting his jollies doing this - likely not making him good mate material for you. And he's likely jerking off to porn all the time so he'll be worthless as a sexual partner as well.
No, sometimes it's just not a match. That's why you date, a LOT, so you have experience to be able to make these kinds of determinations, whether they're actually worth your investment in time and emotion. Just don't have sex with them all - make sure they're worthy of your attention - most will not be.
@Perlyn, you asked for opinion and she gave you one. No need to be rude. I agree with her. I also have a boyfriend and he never had the need to do things like that since we've been together. I wouldn't really call it cheating, but it is lusting over other women, and just because he doesn't have a chance with them doesn't mean he doesn't want a chance with them or doesn't want them because he probably does since that's what he is constantly liking and lusting over. And I find that disrespectful to the other person especially because those images set an unrealistic standard of beauty for girls which causes insecurity and body image issues.
if he doesn't know them it's okay for me. I mean I like looking at abs so he should have the same freedom as me.
I understand that you're insecure about that but I think there's a huge difference between you and these popular bloggers. He knows you and your personality but he only knows how they look and that they look hot. He probably doesn't think about them longer than five seconds to like their picture but he thinks about you all the time.
Quite a few years ago, I had the same problem. The photos my boyfriend at the time liked were 99.9% girls, it made me insecure as that's how I used to be, not his fault but this made me worse. I spoke to him and said I didn't like it and he started to stop.. he then carried on a while later and I said it was disrespectful now, and he should respect how I feel. I said he was fine too look, he just didn't HAVE too like it. He finally stopped
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popular bloggers.. aka people he doesn't know. I would be fine with that, you should feel insecure because they are just photos. If he genuinely thought he was doing something wrong he would think about what you have access to aka seeing who he likes on insta. If it bothers you you can talk to him about it.
social media just ruins relationship.
i was initially bothered too when i saw my boyfriend was following hot girls.
drove me mad and insecure.
but then i got sick of becoming mad.
i just stopped monitoring his activities.
my only rule. if he cheats on me, bye. otherwise, look all you want.Maybe quit instagram and there will be no problems. Have only facebook for messeging and thats all. Why you want to creat problems where there are non.
My answer ye they are good looking, have nice bikini and so one, so sue me. Im loyal to you, so if you dont like it you can leave.
Two weaks of dating, goosh you just getting to know each other, keep it kalm and dont live on internet.2. point make feel like you are going to be an annoying girlfriend later...
he is just liking the pics. and you are jealous ( jealousy is not always a bad thing ).
it's okay. I think. he just like.
maybe you having a boyfriend which is not of your league... I mean more handsome then what you thought you will ever have. that's why you are insecure...
just trust him. just chill...
but always have a eye on his actions...
social media really ruins relationshipsyou should like pics on insta with half naked guys who look better than him... wait until he react, then you can have a real discussion about this
Tbh I don't see why you would do that when you're in a relationship, but you are a fresh couple and I have no insight in your relationship. It could be that he just doesn't take the relationship that serious right now. I would give it time.
I get you don't wanna talk about it but if it doesn't get better that's your only choice. It bothers you and I think any decent guy would understand that. In a relationship problems are better resolved sooner than later.
Good luck :)If you refuse to talk to him about it then just let it go. He's a guy. He's going to be interested in seeing girls bodies. It doesn't mean he's any less interested in you.
Why are you worrying abou instagram shit. Its just intagram. He likes looking at pictures of pretty women. It doesn't mean he is not loyal. If he actually tries something with girls irl then its a problem. For now chill and let him be
think of it like this, he's a lion caught in a cage, the taste of the wild still lingers which will take some time to fade away. so you've got two choices. a) wait it out. b) show him your appeal and grab his attention
We are all sexual creatures whether you want to admit it or not. There's nothing wrong with eye candy. The issue is you feel insecure that he's not giving you the same attention or if he is that it's not enough. That's a you issue. It's hard but you need to let that go not need the validation. Also. Never ever restrict another person. That's selfish and a sure fire way to destroy a relationship. Unless somthing is truly unhealthy then have the self respect to leave.
Pretty certain what he's doing is harmless. My boyfriend of 3 years follows and likes sexy cosplayers in revealing clothing on instagram. It doesn't mean he loves me any less. Plus, I'm assuming your boyfriend is 18 so he's young still.
omg he finds women attractive , the apocalypse is coming! lol chill out
Just because someone is in a relationship, doesn't mean he/she somehow becomes blind to every other girl/guy on the planet. As long as he/she doesn't cheat, it's absolutely fine.
he just wants to see you in a bikini I think lol
but seriously it's a guys brain we can't do anything about it lol
guys are guys
But if your relationship gets serious just talk to him about this issue and solve it.hea a guy lol. dont matter how much we love our girlfriend.. its like a fat guyon a diet.. sure the donut LOOKS good... but there's no way he's gonna eat it cuz he's on a diet.. unless he reaaaaaaallly wants that donut and can get it for free. :D
well in a newly relationship maybe he should be showing you better respect right off rip. take it as a warning sign. he can't even be faithful in honey moon stage this isn't porn its Instagram like these are legit real people he follows so he's not being 100 percent faithful nor is he showing you any respect. My man of 3 years has never done that to me.
Ewww, how intensely Disgusting! Some girls and their obsession over social media 🙄
That fella better be prepared for a break up.You should be more worried if he don't because being bound to someone don't make you blind, but if he was interested in something else entirely it would also rule you out too.
That is so rude. Its obvious if he gets a chance he will bang these women. Either confront him or break up with him
Well do you look in a bikini too? If you do then he likes you too since he is with you but I guess he just likes to look but it's still early the relationship to tell him to focus on you
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