Should I be worried about my boyfriend liking pics of other girls on instagram?

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My boyfriend has recently been liking a lot of pictures of random girls on instagram. Girls we dont know. He started out searching the tag #cute and now on his explore page it just has pictures of hot girls popping up. I'm not the jealous/possessivetype at all but he has a history of cheating and I guess I just want to know... do guys just go around liking pics of random pretty girls when they are in happy relationships? Or should I be worried...

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

I don’t care what anyone says: “It’s just Instagram.” Bad habits start with the mind then our actions. If his focus is only other girls and not you then there is an issue? I’ve seen guys in relationships who dropped that bad habit of scrolling all day on insta to watch other girls.. play time is over. If they can do it? Your boyfriend can do it as well. He’s probably one of those guys who’s out with you and when another woman is passing by he has no problem checking her out in front of you and says: “I’m just looking.”

Yea um, that doesn’t fly with me.

Myaalyce · Accepted Answer

You can think other people are attractive while in a relationship but there is a certain level of respect and things you most likely won’t feel the need to do anymore when in a relationship. Going out of his way to search for hot girls would be a turn off to me, especially if he’s cheated before.

Sharky9222 · Accepted Answer

As a guy... there's two possibilities here..

1. He is not that into you anymore and he needs something like.. hotter or whatever

2. He just searching and trying to figure out what will YOU look like when you dress like them or move like them or maybe have their dirty looks or whatever..

Brett99 · Accepted Answer

The fact he's actively searching "cute" is most concerning in my opinion. If someone is happily with someone, they wouldn't cast doubts in their heads.

Maybe better if he doesn't know them, if that counts as a silver lining. The history of cheating almost destroys that silver lining though

coachTanthony · Answer

"when they are in happy relationships?" The answer is no. So I would try and find out if the relationship HE is in is really  happy as you say!

Gisellebabe · Answer

I had a very similar problem with an ex once. He wouldn’t just like he would follow them too. I tried to not make it a big deal and thought it wasn’t something I should worry about. But but later down the track I found out that he was never that serious about me and only now can I see how miserable I was. I am now with someone who’s character it is to be loyal and only have eyes for me.
I’ve learned now to choose my men carefully and accept that you can’t change someone’s character. If he is the type of person to like other girls’ pictures and it bothers you, well then it’s up to you to either accept that that’s the kind or person he is and not make it a big deal. OR you can leave and find someone who is more compatible with your values and you will never have to deal with something like that again.

R4vedave · Answer

If you don't have a problem with porn, then I don't see why you'd have a problem

Anonymous · Answer

It can be normal behaviour and nothing to worry about. If the pictures are of people he knows in person and interaction is very regular then it may be worth asking about and voicing your concerns.

Many happy couples still watch porn individually for example, the best course of action if you are concerned about him looking as attractive women online is to talk openly about it with him!

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

>do guys just go around liking pics of random pretty girls when they are in happy relationships?
not me

>searching the tag #cute and now on his explore page it just has pictures of hot girls popping up

lol amateur

cheapshotbob · Answer

if your not woorried you could loose him if it turns into more than a "just liking them" phase you need to convince him to stop before he loose you to some girl who will use and dump him like he would do.

not a pretty site when a guy gets hurt in the heart lol

DevikaButts95 · Answer

There's no problem with it at all... with ya' know, faithful and trustworthy men. Everyone is attracted to other people besides their SO, even if they are in a relationship they are happy with.
BUT considering he has a history of cheating, be just a little more cautious.

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

If he knew them that would be different. If he's cheated on you in the past then you know what to watch for. If you can't trust him you should be figuring out if that trust can be regained and if not cut bait.

CTexpress · Answer

I've been in a relationship for over 7 years even in some unhappy time I dont just go liking pictures of other girls. I have looked at pictures of other girls mostly my partners friends to see who they are and some of them are very attractive. But everyone is different I am considerate of my partners feelings I know that I wouldn't like it if I see her liking other guys photos so I dont do that myself.

SydneySentinel · Answer

I don't know why many guys do this and then say "it doesn't matter." EFF that. It's disrespectful.  PLUS he has a history of cheating? He should be building trust and showing you he cares about you.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I am close with a model who 'also' has instagram. I believe it was our third time out when she asked me for my instagram. Imagine her surprise when I told her I did not have one or any social media? Then she jokingly threatened to create me one. Anyway, I keep seeing questions like yours pop up... it makes me all the more glad I do not have any.

midhun12 · Answer

I don't know y girls keep bugging their boyfriend if they look at a hot girl or like her pic, it's completely normal that there is nothing to be worried about, understand that LADIES!!!(ATTENTION:none of these concerns me cuz I'm single hasta la vista)✌

sockandshoes · Answer

history of cheating and this, yes i would be worried. guys try to make girls comfortable with them looking at other women, im sure they wouldn't like it if girls went and followed more attractive men. it’s not right.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you asking a bunch of strangers should you be worried you said he has a history of cheating if he cheated on you and you took him back that's your own damn fault for not having any respect for yourself and for not walking away and for giving him the impression that he can cheat on you because you will always take him back again if you were stupid to take him back after cheating on you don't come here crying

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't know enough about your boyfriend but just remember happy couples who love each other don't cheat.

t_dog473 · Answer

If my girl was doing the same thing I wouldn't put up with it.

4eyes2mouths · Answer

Out of respect for my partner I don't like any other pics of woman but her and I both know I still get turned on by other girls as well and she does with men.

Hannajenky · Answer

If this is what you are focusing on you probably have personal jealousy issues you need to work on and you should probably not be in a relationship in the first place. It is very immature to get upset about this

Synikal · Answer

Should he be worried about what u like then? Goes both ways. I like dumb shit as well as women but my dick isn't hard from liking it nor do I message the girl.

Shayedd · Answer

Why would it be different if it was people you did know? People find people attractive, always. How they handle it is what matters. Why guys go around submitting likes and fireballs to random women they will never meet completely escapes me.

ElissaDido · Answer

That's in the very least disrespectful.  I'd see that as a red flag.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it depends on the situation. If it's just some random IG girl, then no. If it's someone he or both of you know, then maybe, especially if it's the same person all the time. If it bothers you, I would ask him about it.

CallMeMike · Answer

The important part here is the "in a HAPPY relationship". Can't tell you if you are but the cheating doesn't scream "happy" to me.

linds34 · Answer

Instagram likes don't matter, a history of cheating is a red flag though.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Only worry if you have nothing that sets you apart from all of those other girls.

Anonymous · Answer

me And my boyfriend were together for 6 years and had a very deep understanding of each other. I told him I didn’t like it and he stopped doing it.
Guys like to see and think. Even if he doesn’t like their pics, they’re thinking about it. It’s just the action.

anametouse · Answer

He has a history of cheating and you thought it would be a good idea to be in a relationship with him? You kinda did this to yourself

arabgoddess · Answer

It's not on... You should be the one his eyes wants to see! Sounds like he has an obsession

Gatman34 · Answer

No grown man should have a Instagram that’s teenage girl shit

SamirahD22 · Answer

Well girl whose the dummy here? You, if he has a history of cheating, likening hot girls pics on gram, and even searching for other women. What else proof do you need? Stop beating a dead horse. you're only a back up

Thatsamazing · Answer

You mean should you be insane? Probably not, but apparently it's too late. Tell him that he needs to break up with you, for his sake.

Browneye57 · Answer

He's just making his backup plans in case you don't work out.  What is yours?

Lumberman989 · Answer

No it`s just a like on a social media forum. I like the posts of people I barely interact with it`s not some horrendous act.

BlueDream · Answer

It's disrespectful and not cool.

KittyMilk · Answer

It's the best part of social media it's eye candy, I'm going to go like some pictures in a few just because

SwordShield · Answer

Don't worry, he is probably just wanting to make a girl's day. Nice guy :)

Agem123 · Answer

It's disrespectful. Have you tried talking about it with him?

Sky-limits · Answer

Have you asked why? It could be friends from a while back. Don't assume they are random unless you ask first.

Anonymous · Answer

If they are random girls, why worry about it? If he knew them, then thats different

Hanzyxw · Answer

Just tell him it is weird and see his reaction

CarrieBlossum · Answer

I would be pissed personally

GloriaMc · Answer

That's alright you'll be fine

Gottabsavagee · Answer

Well I don’t see it as cool tbh

NickiB · Answer

Nope its normal.

lexi-02xx · Answer

Liking is fine - but not COMMENTING.

WhiteShoulder · Answer

I voted A

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes you should

Anonymous · Answer

Don't worry.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Do the same.

Anonymous · Answer

not really

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