My boyfriend likes Instagram photos of girls in bikinis?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend always makes sure to like all photos girls post of themselves in bikinis. The girls he follows, he won't always like their selfies/other photos, but whenever they post a bikini picture he makes sure to like it. That bothers me. That makes me feel he is a dog and grosses me out.

Also, he rarely likes my photos.

[Anonymous]

This seems like a hilariously arbitrary thing to be upset about.

You're displaying a really shallow level of obsessive vanity. He'd likely be very turned off by you mentioning this, and then feel like he needs to defend himself despite his natural behavior.

Men are easily stimulated visually. Do you get upset with him when he notices other women in public? Do you police his thoughts then?

Look, being upset that your boyfriend finds other girls attractive and not you screams insecure very loudly. It's good that you're willing to compete, but complaining about it looks more like pouting than anything else, which would be a huge turn off for any self-respecting man.

[Jessicastern]

Shut the phuk up you stupid piece of sh*t. Suck a dick gag

[Jessicastern]

Fag*

[Asker]

If he finds them attractive, why does he feel the need to like their bikini photos and make his attraction and interest known?

It's like walking on the street, he can notice an attractive girl, that's fine. But liking a girls photo is the same as if he were to go up to that girl in public and be like "hey, I think you're hot".

He can admire a photo without liking it! There's no need for an interaction like that when he's dating someone. And on top of it, there's no evidence on social media that we are dating...

[Asker]

How am I not supposed to feel insecure?

[Opinion Owner]

You're caught up on the process of showing interest online.

Facebook/Insta are literally just validation machines. Men worth your time would value you more for being less willing to advertise your sexual nature since you have things to offer them other than your sexual appeal.

Again, men are stimulated visually very easily, so you should expect this from him. However, if he really values your relationship, he'll be thankful that you have more to offer him than simple displays of promiscuity.

Sluts don't be a much to offer besides their physically appealing bodies, that's why men quickly discard them after they get their physical release from this. This is why women who have more to offer than sexuality are the ones that end up with children before 30: a goal of every women, regardless of any other factors relating to this circumstance.

Be proud that you don't have to stoop so low, and poke fun at him for acting like an animal with its mouth watering at the sight of fresh meat.

[nachosaresexy]

That's pretty bad form on his part. Have you tried talking to him about it at all? Ideally he wouldn't be doing it in the first place and you wouldn't have to talk to him about it at all, but he maybe sees his friends or other guys do the same type of thing and feels like it's just a normal thing to do, not even thinking about or realizing it annoys you and can potentially make you feel insecure. If things are otherwise good between you guys, I would give him a chance on this one and just casually let him know you'd rather he not do it... and then how he responds will help you figure out if it's a bigger red flag or just something he hadn't put enough thought into.

[Anonymous]

He probably just thought they were hot, nothing more. Most guys do that. He rarely likes your photos probably because they are buried under other photos since he follows so many people there.

If he loves you don't worry about it! But if you still feel uncomfortable you should talk to him about it.

[Asker]

He follows less people than I do. He follows like 130 people. There have always been times when he'd know I'd posted a photo and saw it on his timeline, but still didn't like it.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe those people post a lot of stuff? Are they like celebs/models or common people?

Anyway, does he pay attention to you and compliment your looks in real life?

[Coconutpie]

Stop worrying about instagram. He thinks they are hot, whatever. He is with you isn't he? And he can 'like' whoever he wants, it is his life and his instagram.

[Asker]

Why does he have to let them know he finds them hot? What is the purpose of that?

[Coconutpie]

Why does it bother you so much?

[Asker]

There's no need for him to let a girl know he finds her hot. I mean, he can look at girls and think they are. But liking a photo is literally equivalent to saying to a girl on the street "I think you're hot". I don't like photos of shirtless guys. That's disrespectful. He's in a relationship, he doesn't need to give other girls attention.

[Coconutpie]

But he is not even doing anythinf? I mean he does not touch them or anything, he just likes it. Did you ask him about it? Or told him that you don't like it?

How long are you guys dating?

[Asker]

I have told him about it. He doesn't understand why it makes me feel bad. On top of liking bikini photos, he has gone onto girls' profiles and liked old photos of them. Also, he rarely likes my photos. And he doesn't have an evidence on social media that we are dating

We have been together for 11 months.

[Coconutpie]

You know I had this problem too. It was actually worse, he commented on girls pictures how hot they were. But yeah it made me insecure and we had some fights about and eventually broke up. But that was because I just never trusted him. Do you trust him enough? Or are you thinking that he is going to private message one of those girls?

It is not that long, you shouldn't make a problem of small things like this.

[Asker]

I don't know if he's messaging them. He's weird with his phone. He doesn't let me touch it. He says he isn't cheating. But what do I know? His actions just make me feel inferior and inadequate.

[Coconutpie]

If he would be hiding something he wouldn't like their picture when he knows you can see it. You can now trust him and know for sure that he would never cheat. Or snoop through his phone, know what you are doing, this can ruin your relationship.

Actually who knows that you guys are dating? Like do his friends and family know?

[Asker]

His family knows about me. I haven't met them yet... a few of his friends do too. He's new to the area, so he doesn't have any close friends here

[fatimSA95]

He's a guy, let him be. Insecurity is not attractive.

[Asker]

I feel that excuses his behavior just because "he's a guy". As if he is unable to control himself or something lol

[fatimSA95]

You need to realize that there are several attractive women, and if he finds them attractive it is only natural. A stupid "like' on instagram is such a petty thing to be complaining about.

[Asker]

I understand he finds other women attractive. I find other men attractive. But, the difference is, I'm not going to like a shirtless photo of a guy I know and find attractive. I don't see the need to interact with someone like that, and let them know I find them hot, when I'm dating someone. If it's a selfie, it's different. But, a bikini photo or shirtless photo? It's just disrespectful to me.

[fatimSA95]

It's not disrespectful, if you chose to take it that way... that's you. Just because you have a certain view in regards to that behavior, does not mean he's obligated to feel the same way.

[Lucas_mhk]

It looks like he is a fuckboy.. Talk to him or run away

[Curmudgeon]

Are these people he actually *knows*, or just celebrities and models that he would never meet in real life? Yes, that matters.

[Asker]

Girls he actually knows (who I don't).

[shyam123]

it's a clear sing that he's not too much interested in u

[Anonymous]

He's just Liking their pics. Its not like He's fucking them.

[Coconutpie]

Preach girl!

[Asker]

He's basically letting them know "I find you attractive and would fuck you."

[Opinion Owner]

Thats all in your head.

[Asker]

I disagree lol

[Opinion Owner]

Then why are you with him? Relationships are built on trust and you clearly do not trust your boyfriend.

[Asker]

I just don't understand why he feels the need to like these photos and give them that kind of attention? I don't give attention to guys' shirtless photos. I feel it's disrespectful. Also, on top of that, he rarely likes my selfies I post. He also doesn't have any photos of us online.

[Nahid1234]

Talk to him about this to improve your relationship

[Anonymous]

He's just being a guy.

[Seppelson]

every guy like girls in bikinis

[Anonymous]

Hack his insta