Wanting my tubes tied but never had sex?

[Anonymous]

I was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder and I struggle with depressive episodes… I don’t feel qualified or good enough. I’m scared that a man will leave me to be a single mother or baby mama. I’ve never been loved and most times I’m considered unstable by men.

I just don’t want to create a miserable child

is that fair?

[Finchie40]

It’s your body and your choice , but really make sure you don’t ever want to have kids’ of your own before making t your final decision, because unfortunately you could regret doing so , if you know you differ from BPD , then you should focus on getting yourself help as much as possible , just because you haven’t had any luck with the males, it doesn’t mean you will always have bad luck , Most people in general do not have luck with the opposite sex , sometimes it takes a lot of bad seeds to find a good one , so don’t sell yourself short eventually you will find someone that loves you for you , so my advice to you is go work on yourself , go get the help you need before making any drastic decisions.

[Asker]

I don’t think having a family is in my cards… especially now that I’m 27 and never experienced love of any sort… the guy who inspired me to have a child hurt me and I think he’s connected to my trans cousin now.. it hurts unbearably. I’ve become severely unstable and it’s scary

I think about adoption but I’m not sure.

[Finchie40]

Well you are only 27 and you still have plenty of time to meet someone and possibly have a baby , don’t beat yourself up because you experienced some bad seeds. Take this time and go get yourself some help for your BPD , just because you have BPD doesn’t mean you can never find true love. Just work on yourself and eventually you will meet someone that loves you for you , that wants to settle down with you and possibly have a baby with you.

[Asker]

I don't know lol I was thinking about getting back into virtual sex work

[Finchie40]

Virtual sex work? Never heard of it , please explain lol

[ProbablyClueless]

I would caution you to not do anything drastic. It would be really heartbreaking for you to get your tubes tied and then meet a man later on who inspires you to want a child.

[Asker]

One man did inspire me to want to have his child and he not only didn’t want me after we went out he was trans attracted and it all just broke my heart

But I don’t want to pass that on to my child and I don’t want to be a single mom

[PeachyPie93]

You haven't even had sex yet.. I doubt they would tie them since they wouldn't even give me a check up when I was a virgin lol.

[Anonymous]

Your body your choice it will be hard to find a dr who will do it though most won't

[Asker]

I know that’s the hardest part

[Zack-Bann]

Natural selection works in mysterious ways
And often it’s a self fulfilling prophecy

[Anonymous]

Don't have unprotected sex until you find somebody you trust.

[DryGermanGuy]

Not that bullshit again… 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[Asker]

You complain about everything I say! wouldn't you not want me to have kids? Wouldn’t that be okay

[DryGermanGuy]

Go ahead and have all the kids you want or go ahead and don't have them. Perfectly fine. But if I have to read for the 1000th time your obsessing about a guy allegedly rejecting you for a trans person, I'll blow an aneurysm.

[Asker]

But it’s the truth! Why would you be upset about that? And the trans woman is my cousin…

That really hurt me

[DryGermanGuy]

And in turn you let us suffer, for years now? Enough already. Move on!

[Asker]

I can’t my heart still hurts. Maybe you can talk to me

[DryGermanGuy]

I can try, but there are many professional analysts out there, as you know.

[PaleDale]

It's fine, have sex and be free

[Asker]

Noooooo nuh uh

[PaleDale]

I mean if you get your tubes tied you will be free

[Asker]

No im still not that interested. No attachment or emotional hurt

[PaleDale]

But you can orgasm

[Asker]

How so?

[PaleDale]

Having sex

[jahaims]

Good plan.

[Asker]

Thanks