Would you cut your hair/shave your beard because your date asked you to?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I've been growing out my hair and beard recently and I like the new look; but there's a woman who told me she'd much prefer me to shave and get a short haircut if I want to invite her out.

[Summeroflove]

If it’s someone I barely know yet and I’m not even in a relationship with them absolutely not… I’m not changing my appearance to impress someone I don’t know that well yet especially if we don’t even last I did that for nothing.

She can prefer you to do whatever she wants you to do but that doesn’t mean you have to do anything unless you just want to. If she only wants you if you shave chances are she’s not the right one for you.

I wouldn’t expect a woman I just met to alter her appearance.

[NathanDavis]

only one of my exes did say she really would have liked to see me with shorter hair too... but never ever really asked me to do it, and so I said, that I could do it if she really wanted me to because I mean... hear just grows back anyway, and quick too but I never really did it and she didn't insist, because she didn't dislike my hair either

so I guess it depends on the circumstances and how they ask about it too, if they didn't like my hair at all so that they want me to change it, I wouldn't even get in a relationship with them at all

I prefer to be with someone that likes me the way I am, and not for someone to idealize me in a way they would want me to be

[Account]

No. It means they don't like me as I am. If I am into someone, I don't ask them to change anything regarding their appearance, therefore I think it is fair of me to have the same treatment.

[HawkPerception]

No, I would not. My appearance and how I present myself are a reflection of who I am as a person. If they're not into it, that's fine, just as I'm generally not into women with short hair, tomboy fashion, and who don't workout. Physical attraction is a thing. And we can simply go our separate ways if it bothers her that much.

[HawkPerception]

If it's something I WANTED to do, or it's not a big deal and I couldn't care much, I'd go ahead and do it.

[BadApple69]

I would shave because sometimes my beard or mustache might irritate a sensitive area on my girlfriend…. And I don’t want that spot irritated 😊
But my hair is my hair…. If she doesn’t like it we can discuss it but changing it is my decision.

[Ariesman81]

It's a shit test. Tell her you don't date lesbians.

[WonderingManII]

Yes I would. If I really really really like her.

[jamesgoldman]

If she's willing to pay the barber then okay

[Anonymous]

Beards are disgusting bacteria traps.