Are French Dinner Parties A Great Way To Meet New People? Why Or Why Not?

[fonduegirl]

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Did French really invent tongue kissing

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

French here. Yes, again, the same one. And I still don't pee around ! 😂

Since I had no idea what a "french dinner party" is supposed to be, I looked that one up and it gave: "A French dinner party (known in France as un dîner or un dîner chez des amis) is a social gathering centered around food, wine, and conversation—usually more formal and ritualized than typical dinners in many other cultures."

So, @NathanDavis my answer is no, I don't host and I won't host that kind of soirée, as they're super rigid & inevitably contained boring people, no, spare me from this, I'll spare you from that lol. Also, don't expect wine with me, if you want some, go buy some and bring it with you. Me, I serve coffee and maybe apple juice. Very rarely, amber beer or cider.

@anon1903 I answered through answering Nathan's question. I view so called "French dinner parties" are rituals made for bored couples. You wouldn't meet anyone new there, or if you do, it's in a very codified way. In fact I would call that an "American middle-class suburb party", same boredom to me, same stupid ritualized socialization for rigid people.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I may be posh in my turn of phrases, but I'm "taking a piss", to paraphrase you, on social rituals of posh neighborhood. I'm taking a piss in their bathroom, politely, I mean.

[fonduegirl]

I won't call it piss taking bc this shit is literally from your culture, you'd know it better than anybody.

Second of all, even I thought the book was having unrealistic ideas of French dating culture.

[fonduegirl]

I wish people didn't view Europeans through rose tinted glass

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

but tinted glasses are common about any topics, everywhere in the world. The goal of life, at least for some of us is to look at the glasses used. That's what Plato told us 2000 years ago. And I'm sure Indian traditions have said something similar as this:

"a philosopher recognizes that before philosophy, his soul was "a veritable prisoner fast bound within his body... and that instead of investigating reality of itself and in itself is compelled to peer through the bars of a prison""

[fonduegirl]

You're pissing once again

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

🤣🤣🤣

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

About tongue kissing, it's a good question, I'll be glad to participate in this new question once it's formally put on this platform. It deserves more than a shy update

[fonduegirl]

I'm too pussy to ask it

[fonduegirl]

You do it

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'll do it

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'll do it, on one condition, first, you take back this awful expression "too pussy" you used

[NathanDavis]

@Maybe_Maybe_not when are you going to host the next one?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

oh what I'm being summoned, what, where? Oh french dinner parties lol

You know it's like french fries, french kiss, french manucure and french beans, people on this planet constantly associate french with I don't know what. What even is a french dinner party for them, I have no idea 🤣

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Also, if you're invited, bring some food cause it's unsure I have something you like. Most importantly, bring your best brain, cause the party won't be about classy food or classy furniture, only about intricate conversations. The plan is to talk about:
Politics
Society
Culture
History
Star Trek
Your past
Your girlfriend/boyfriend

I'll return the favor.
Everyone in the room will return the favor if you participate.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

ah and there is another rule, do not ask rude questions to my guests: "what do you do for a living" is a rude question in my surroundings.

[fonduegirl]

@Maybe_Maybe_not WORK QUESTIONS ARE TRAUMATIZING OF COURSE THEY SHOULD NOT BE ASKED

[fonduegirl]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I read some book called Why French Women Never Sleep Alone and the author said French dinner parties are the best thing ever.

In my theory though, I guess she was just bored of Hookup culture in America

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

hehe well, I'd be super cautious about what one author says, considering the risk of projection

[NathanDavis]

would you have a heart attack if I do bring Spaniard tapas and pinchos...

about brains... sometimes, what people do find the most intriguing and interesting, is the "not so best" of my upper guts... lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

French and Spanish have much in common, Spanish guys are basically french but with more craziness to it lol. Tapas, avoid the octopus, the rest shall be fine

[NathanDavis]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I've always said it, and I will always say it...

Catalá is just the perfect blend and mix and better than both... Spanish and French

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BcFLDosRUQY

[NathanDavis]

(and with a hint of Portuguese...)

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Interesting statement, Nathan

[NathanDavis]

@Maybe_Maybe_not so... what do you do? for a living?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm an astronaut. Part-time.

[NathanDavis]

@Maybe_Maybe_not what kind of astronaut...

and what happens to the other portion of nonspatial continuum...

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm the disobedient and fluffy kind of astronaut. The other portion of my Q continuum is dedicated to the trumpet.

[NathanDavis]

@Maybe_Maybe_not do French people like karaoke...

or, serenade

[DishLady]

Why "French dinner parties" specifically? Any dinner party is a good focused way to meet someone bc you'll be able to spend time getting to know who they are. Cocktail parties will tell you what their beverage tolerance is, but dinner parties (or brunch gatherings) will allow you time to chat and socialize.

[Nikki1989]

Yes indeed, hours at the table allow for in-depth conversations.

[DannyUk2017]

Could be... might end up with a french kiss...🤷‍♂️😂

[DannyUk2017]

Update the French invented between the "other lips kissing" 😉, japanese invented the tongue kissing, and funnily enough with an yolk from an egg...😅

[fonduegirl]

Other lips thing... I thought that was australian?

[fonduegirl]

I feel ignorant

[DannyUk2017]

Nope... Just look it up...

[fonduegirl]

"The act of kissing with the tongue, often called "French kissing," doesn't have a single inventor or a specific origin point in time or culture, according to some historians. While the term "French kiss" is linked to France, it's believed to have become popularized by American and British soldiers stationed there during World War I, who observed and adopted a more passionate kissing style, according to some historical accounts. However, research suggests that kissing with the tongue has much earlier origins, with evidence of lip and tongue contact found in ancient Mesopotamia and Egypt, dating back to at least 2500 BC. Some theories also suggest that the practice may have evolved from grooming or food sharing behaviors in early humans or other animals. "

- Google Gemini

[DannyUk2017]

Texts like the Kama Sutra, and other Sanskrit texts over 3,500 years old, describe kissing with the tongue, suggesting its presence in ancient Indian culture.
But you did Look...😉😅😂😂😂

[fonduegirl]

Hahaha

[DannyUk2017]

😅😂😂😂😂...

[DangerouslyCute]

if only the food was better... :D

[strateguy632]

French is a code so avoid those

[fonduegirl]

What code

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yes if you meet hot French broads !!!

[BarryLiverstone]

I don’t know what a French dinner party is

[fonduegirl]

Google it then

[BarryLiverstone]

Google says : “A French dinner party, or "soirée," is a leisurely and elegant affair with a focus on conversation, good food, and good wine, often extending late into the evening. It typically follows a multi-course structure, including an aperitif, entrées (starters), a main course, a cheese course, dessert, and coffee with digestifs”

[BarryLiverstone]

I’d say if someone isn’t that outgoing or social, this type of party is too long and that may leave them feeling uncomfortable. So it’s less of an opportunity to meet new people and more suited to family / friends who want to engage in fellowship together

[fonduegirl]

You're probably right

[AndrésC64]

What's a French dinner party?

[eagle1951]

i would think so