What makes a bad kisser?

Question

For me, it's using way too much tongue. I barely like kissing so when someone pushes their tongue way down my mouth, it really is 🤮.

BobbieBoy666 · Accepted Answer

A "bad kisser" can be characterized by a variety of traits, including bad breath, excessive or aggressive kissing, lack of technique, or simply not paying attention to the other person's cues. Poor hygiene, like chapped lips or excessive saliva, can also make a kiss unenjoyable. Ultimately, communication and awareness are key to improving.
Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Physical Flaws:
Bad breath: This is a major turn-off and a common complaint about bad kissers.
Excessive saliva: Too much saliva can make the kiss feel sloppy and unpleasant.
Dry or chapped lips: Uncomfortable and uninviting.
Teeth bumping: Can be painful and jarring.
Heavy breathing: Panting can be a sign of nervousness or a lack of control, and can be distracting.
Kissing Technique:
Going too fast or too hard: A good kiss involves a gradual build-up of intensity, not a sudden assault.
Lack of rhythm or awkwardness: A kiss should flow naturally, not feel jerky or forced.
Too much or too little tongue: Excessive tongue action can be overwhelming, while too little can make the kiss feel lifeless.
Not paying attention: A good kisser is present and attuned to their partner's reactions.
Lip sucking or biting: Can be uncomfortable and even painful if not done with care.
Communication and Attitude:
Not communicating:
Not asking for feedback or adjusting to the other person's preferences can lead to an unsatisfying experience.
Lack of enthusiasm:
Kissing should be enjoyable for both parties, and a lack of passion can be a major drawback.
Being self-centered:
A good kisser is considerate of their partner's experience, not just their own.

Bad breath or poor hygiene: This is often cited as a major turn-off. Taking care of your oral hygiene is crucial, notes eHarmony.
Dry or chapped lips: Uncomfortable to kiss, says Dating Intentionally.
Too much saliva: A "sloppy" kiss can be off-putting.
Unawareness of lip/mouth size: Kissing can become awkward or uncomfortable if one partner's mouth is significantly larger or smaller than the other's and they aren't adjusting for it.
Biting too hard: While some may enjoy gentle nibbling, painful biting is generally disliked.

Poor technique
Going too hard or too fast: Start slow and build intensity, advises Business Insider.
Lack of enthusiasm or being too stiff: Kissing requires participation and responsiveness.
Too much tongue or "lizard tongue": Excessive or awkward tongue use can be uncomfortable.
Kissing like a "dead fish": Not enough movement, according to Psychology Today.
Lack of variation: Doing the same thing over and over can get dull, notes a Reddit thread.
Ignoring body language and cues: A good kisser pays attention to their partner's reactions and adjusts their technique accordingly.
Eyes open: This can be unnerving for some.

Lack of connection/attentiveness
Not being present: Kissing is about intimacy and connection, and being distracted can detract from the experience.
Not knowing or caring about your partner's preferences: A good kiss is a two-way street, and communication (both verbal and nonverbal) is key to making it enjoyable for both parties.
Ultimately, what constitutes a "bad" kiss is subjective and varies depending on individual preferences and the specific context of the interaction. However, the key takeaway is that communication, attentiveness, and a willingness to adjust based on your partner's responses are crucial for a positive kissing experience.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Yeah, way, too much time, I mean, kissing is beautiful thing, and there's an art to it that's how gentle you are or how do you slide your lips against theirs gently across their cheek down their chin to their neck? I mean, there isn't art to it. And what you feel from your lips is what you want them to feel inside

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Sloppiness! Too much lip sucking. A lack of finesse, delicacy.

A good kisser follows the lead of the person they're kissing. If there's no "deep throat" FROM the person being kissed, don't YOU deep throat them. Men's tongues and mouths are larger than women's, so be a little reticent.

Don't swallow her face. Don't be too aggressive. Gentle and easy does it is the best way to kiss, especially when kissing someone for the first time.

It can be a terrible turnoff if you lunge into a woman's mouth with no provocation!

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

French kissing is something I find to be a bummer, but just gentle kisses are fantastic.

LiaRaven · Answer

I don’t know, I’ve been always a good kisser and with good kissers lol

OneViewpoint · Answer

LOL, memories. I was at a bad strip club when I was probably 21. A stripper gave me a lap dance then surprisingly wanted to kiss me. I obliged and she thanks me profusely for NOT shoving my tongue down her throat. I kissed her with tongue but it was soft and gentle like I'd kiss someone I was dating. She responded exactly the same way. I guess we were just on the same page in the moment. Anyway she seemed to genuinely appreciate a guy having a little restraint and showing some respect, LOL.

NathanDavis · Answer

I have not experienced bad kissing... yet

but, I've only kissed my exes, lol

but I can theorize that kissing someone that is a heavy smoker... might not be the best experience out there, lol... but I've never done that either so I really don't know

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

A massively bad kisser is a bad kisser, because they're self-absorbed, making them incapable of a  sensitive connection . In practice, I've not experienced the case. I will never experience it because one of the first things I'm attracted to, in romance, is the emotional capacity of someone.

FreyaRed · Answer

Tongue pushers are bad. Tongue is okay but it has to be soft and tender. Than there are tongue suckers who simulate a fellatio while sucking on someone's tongue with 1 bar under pressure.
Bad mouth smell. Using some mouthwash is not enough. There are antiseptic mouthwashes with 0,2% Chlorhexidine Digluconate that kill all bacteria which cause mouth smell for a two, three days.

Apple1996 · Answer

Bad breath and too small of a tongue. For some reason I just love when a guy has a huge tongue and shoves it down my throat or let's me suck on it 😝

sage2021 · Answer

Too much saliva from the other person. Messy kisser kissing me all over my mouth. Not letting me come up for some air and let me catch my breath.

Likes2drive · Answer

Someone that doesn’t know what they are doing that doesn’t adjust to the other person they are kissing, some are too hard with too much tongue and some don’t know how to kiss right at all, I like to gently French kiss but not force it and back off a little and kiss her upper lip and then both, I’m very passionate

RageBabe · Answer

A "bad kisser" can be defined by a variety of characteristics, including going too quickly or slowly, using too much or too little tongue, having terrible breath, or being excessively aggressive or passive.

Communicationisking · Answer

The gecko or snake tongue kiss. Also a slobbery kiss like the peck that grandma gives you on the cheek as a kid and leaves half her spit on your face except its from a girl you wanted to hook up with and it on your lips.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Too much saliva. Kissing too hard.  I love tongue though.  Tongue can be great in a kiss if the person you're kissing knows that the tongues are supposed to dance with each other.

slatyb · Answer

Self-consciousness that prevents them from focusing on their partner. Most people are over this at your age. I was fortunate to be taught when I was 17 by a slightly older girl. I still miss her.

lilBigPotato · Answer

When someone is too aggressive. Don't like it when someone pushes their tongue down my throat right from the beginning or just moves too fast.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Too much tougne and too much spit! 🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

Levin · Answer

Not feeling it. Sometimes it's better to be gentle, others more, umm, aggressive.

Bricealan · Answer

@simslover92 "Lover", you are too funny !😁😁😁😁🤣🤣🤣

SotiCoto · Answer

Too much saliva. If it is getting out of the mouth-on-mouth exchange and getting all over my face, I just can't stand that.

exitseven · Answer

When somebody does not use any tongue at all. it is like she thinks it is an ordeal.

Shiprex · Answer

A beak or snout for pets. Humans, to slobbery and insensitive.

bowenw · Answer

Bad breath and where they keep their lips pressed tight together.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Bad breath and a dirty mouth that’s been around the block

talka20 · Answer

I dont like opening eyes for some reason

Jennz6 · Answer

Also, sucking my tongue too hard

Paige90 · Answer

Too much tongue and bad breath

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Don't know. Don't care not interested. But I don't remember last time I did that. That dumb shit you were not even even born yet

DrPepper12 · Answer

Kissing is 🤮 🤢 🤮 🤢 🛑 🚫

RHK36 · Answer

Bad breath, no confidence or doing too much.

WonderingManII · Answer

Don't know, I never kissed.

Pterodon · Answer

Slobbering, drooling

wkhan_87 · Answer

If they have bad breath

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I never had a kiss.

eagle1951 · Answer

to much lip' or tongue

Alex-Snow · Answer

Bad breath

Frida_ · Answer

Bad breath.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Cigarette breath

Anonymous · Answer

Oral/ mouth cancer

cavedweller1973 · Answer

Bad breathe

Anonymous · Answer

Smoking

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