I am anxiously attached to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I recently started to get very attached to my boyfriend. I get very anxious when we separate. When he is at work I am constantly scared & anxious. I call him & text him a lot during his shift. He drives for an hour weekly to visit his parents. When he drives to their home I get really anxious that he will get in a car accident for some reason. I stress when we separate for too long. I just feel anxiety, and fear when he is not around me. He doesn’t complain about it but he is just asking me why I am getting more emotional. I told him I don’t have an answer but if I am bothering him I can stop (which is a lie) I can’t control my anxiety. He said he is not bothered and he likes it/thinks it’s hot. But it doesn’t feel good from my end because I am constantly worried and stressed.

[DishLady]

Just as in the case with the freaking "love languages" now everyone thinks they're psychological experts on relatioships bc youtube is chockablock with vids on "attachment styles"... SIGH...

No one knows YOU or you guy, so there's no way for a pile of strangers to tell you one way or another. You have anxiety issued, please go seek professional counseling, not the yahoos on G@G.

[Anonymous]

Honestly you need therapy. While he may say it doesn’t bother him, over time there’s a good chance it will. It could even cost your relationship. It may get to the point where he feels as though you don’t trust him. So yes you need help.
Im not sure what happened in your life but maybe you lost someone growing up who you care a lot about. Maybe that’s why you have anxiety when it comes to things like your feelings, your relationships w people who are very important in your life.

[Zack-Bann]

The one thing I’m wondering is:
Where can I find a woman like you


But that aside, you can heal the anxiety through treatment.


I’m not the biggest therapy fan but it could potentially be exactly what you need to fix the situation

[Simslover92]

I agree with @WhitneySnow you need to get therapy for your anxiety and the anxious attachment so you can become more secure.

[RHK36]

You sound annoying. Saying you get anxiety like there's nothing you can do is lame. Grow up and get a routine. You sound like you have too much free time to be worrying that much. Get a hobby that keeps you busy doing something productive instead of having free time to be anxious over silly stuff.

[spartan55]

He says he is okay with it... for now. But he will get tired of it. I suggest you take steps to deal with your anxiety, because it sounds like you cab barely function.

[slatyb]

Can you get professional counseling? Eventually he won't find it so amusing.

[Anonymous]

I get anxiety cuz I’ve been ghosted several times , if it doesn’t work out with the current guy , probably never gonna do online stuff again. Bothering a guy at work is not good tho cuz his boss could get annoyed with him

[Bklynbadboy12]

Did something happen recently to make you feel that way

[WhitneySnow]

You need therapy for your anxiety

[Anonymous]

Dump him. Go to therapy.

[jahaims]

Heal the related trauma

[Anonymous]

How long have u been togather