What should I do my date tomorrow is a bar woman?

[MrAgent640509040147]

She's a bar woman and a few men flirt with her which is fine guess the trade in a drunk and drink area but he asked for her number and she gave it to him...

we are going on a date tomorrow I understand she's single technically but why if she likes a guy and asked me for a date.. any opinions welcome

[Summeroflove]

Number one it’s just a first date don’t have any expectations you’re going in to see if you’re compatible and honestly you may not even know how you feel by the end of it and she may not either. So if you don’t know then go on a second and eventually you’ll gain it loose interest to know what direction you’re wanting to go.

Yes, women who are service staff especially bartenders are going to get hit on. Could that be a issue in a relationship? Yes, it could if someone lacked integrity but it wouldn’t be if they’re loyal and wouldn’t act on a opportunity.

The fact she made a move on you shows genuine interest most women aren’t going to ask a dude on a date who they don’t feel attracted to especially if he seems like a creep or weirdo.

If she has other guys attention however she’s choosing to spend her time with you. Then that says a lot more then you may realize. Now at some point or another you can figure out what type of woman she is if she will be compatible or not. But that will come with time

[Zack-Bann]

Well you know what you’re getting
The question is can you deal with it?


If you can accept that bar flirting is just job hazard and if she wants you she will want only you
Date her


If you feel she might opt for another option one cold winters night while on the clock
don’t date her


There is no right answer just personal world views


After all we don’t know the girl. You do

[DishLady]

Calm down. So what if she has othr guys' attention if you haven't even actually gone on a date with you yet? There's no reason for her to dop her whole life just because you decided to ask her out.

Go out and see if you are ok. DO NOT CALL HER "A BAR WOMAN" it's disrespectful and reductive. I don't care that this is what she does... she doesn't need you to SEE HER in that way. You're basically saying it as if it's the same as being a "bar slut". It's just her job.

As a former bartender who kept a nice sturdy bat handy throughout my shit I can tell you that yes... a gal will get a lot of attention. It doesn't mean that she's going with or sleeping with anyone... AT ALL. Be nice.

[MrAgent640509040147]

True thanks but today before the date she chatted to me and said where's my head at as she knows I've just broken up with my girlfriend so she basically rejected me in a nice way

[DishLady]

In addition to asking out someone who you apparently blabbed your past to you possibly gave off the wrong vibe. Girls can tell when someone is looking down on them.

[Nikki1989]

It is just a job like anything else. Men always flirt with bar staff. You might as well get used to that.

[MrAgent640509040147]

True thanks but today before the date she chatted to me and said where's my head at as she knows I've just broken up with my girlfriend so she basically rejected me in a nice way

[exitseven]

I dated a bar tender for a few months. It was a lot of fun because all she wanted to do was drink and go to clubs. She really was going nowhere with her life eventually we broke up

[Anonymous]

If you're jealous someone you're going on a date with might also go on a date with someone else, I don't think you're ready for a relationship.

[MrAgent640509040147]

My last girlfriend wasn't like that that's all

[Opinion Owner]

This person isn't your girlfriend. You said yourself she's single.

[MrAgent640509040147]

True thanks but today before the date she chatted to me and said where's my head at as she knows I've just broken up with my girlfriend so she basically rejected me in a nice way