Am I right to feel this way?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been going through some tough times and it feels like my boyfriend isn’t there. Right now my mom is at the hospital and he hasn’t asked how is she doing. Something so simple and feels like he just doesn’t care. Today I checkout of the hotel and asked him a week ago if he could help me move things out of my hotel. If his sisters could take care of his boys while he helps me (I was in hotel for 2 month) I told him it’s okay if you can’t just let me know. We talked on the phone yesterday and I asked if he would be able to come he said “I’m not sure” told him check out time is 11 but again it feels like I’m asking too much, I start to feel like he only wants the fun me and not when I’m going through the worst times

[ohsheeT]

You have every right to feel what you feel.

First of all your in a motel. That's hard enough and expensive . Then your mom is in the hospital that's even more stress added on to you... when you care fir someone you try to take some of that stress from them your there for them especially if their loved one is in the hospital.

If he new you it should be his idea. Look, I'll go to the hospital with you. Will spit a little bit of time. With her and then let's get you moved out?

Or he brings you over a bunch of boxes. Chewbacs is says. Lets get all your stuffed Pack up tonight or whatever. And when you're at the hospital with your mom I'll get you moved out tomorrow. It sounds like he's only in this relationship for himself.

I mean don't sell yourself short. You know the truth. You answered your own question

I hate to say something that you already know.
This is the last, I think that you need is to be alone at this time. It's just added stress, but you know, the right thing that you're gonna have to do..

Look, everything we do.
In life is hard everything we do in life. Is because it's a learning experience

Everything we do in life is a test to build us up. To make us the best , we can become to get through things

But once we succeed, it's a beautiful thing, and then you understand yourself more you grow more.


And whether you believe this or not, it is all happening at the same time for a reason.
This is not happening to make you stronger. Because what's to come in life?

It's to prepare you. I don't like talking like this listen to yourself sit down try to relax all the answers will come to you

They already have. You just don't want to listen. This is the reason why you ask this question because you already know the answer. If you don't do the right things.

Thinks will just get harder for you and that's when more drama gets involved and the path is a longer path until you get back on track.

And it's just more negative time that you have to live in life. Choose who you want to be and grow and become stronger and more independent. Or I hate saying it like this but I have to. In a way you become weak and lonely.
And and letting this person just take everything from me from the inside. You know which way to go. It's time you have been down this road before. Don't go down it again

[Cormac995]

He's not being a good boyfriend from what I'm hearing. I don't know the full story but with this limited context he sounds like a self-centered duche that doesn't want to emotionally commit.

[TheDraconianJester]

Either he is working through some stuff and doesn't want to lay it out on you while you're having a tough time, doesn't want to make you dwell on the sad situation any further (by passively being present rather than actively), or maybe it's something worth looking into.

Ask yourself this: Is this the first time he has made me feel this way? If not, when were the other times he has done something similar to this?

I don't want to say that this is breakup-worthy. As hard as this might be, talk about this to your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel, what you think he could maybe do better, ask how he thinks about the situation/how he feels, and carefully watch and listen to how he responds. Both verbally and in his body language.


Relationships only work when you both walk through the issues together in a healthy, supportive way. If I were in his shoes, I'd help you move out if I could.
P. S., sorry to hear that your mom is in the hospital. I hope all goes well for you 🫂

[HawkPerception]

Well said.

[Anonymous]

When you mention your mom in the hospital I think about my own who was pretty sick for about 2 weeks, a few months ago. My boyfriend was checking on her harder than me. Texting me every other hour, calling on his lunch break, asking if she needs anything from the store before he comes over. Before him I neverrrr dealt with a man like this, like ever. In fact if it weren’t for me dating him I wouldn’t know any better and probably gaslight myself into normalizing when guys aren’t doing bare minimum. If me and this man were ever to breakup I’d never accept less again, and I don’t think you should accept less either. You feel like he doesn’t care because he isn’t acting like it, so ask yourself if that’s enough. If that’s what you want for yourself.

[LiamS95]

For me a relationship is something you're fully in for both the good times and the not so good times.

[SotiCoto]

Nah. The feelings of anonymous posters are irrelevant.

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, he is being rude if you ask me.