Should I include or exclude that I'm Widowed in a dating profile?

[Anonymous]

Include

Exclude

[Effably]

How relevant is it?

I'd basically say that anything that is first date material is fair to put there. Or if it remains a very focal point of your everyday. In this case if there are kids in the picture, maybe? If not and you don't plan to discuss trauma anytime soon, we all have lives before we went on our next date.

I am not going to tell everyone I am still upset with my math teacher who back when I was 12 told me I gave the wrong answer only to have my friend repeat word for word, literally reading my solution, and being applauded for it. Although I assure you I will bring it up if we ever randomly meet that teacher. Not very relevant to dating me though.

[aaron13547]

Wondered this myself. Its helped me connect to women i could relate to but at the same time it's wasn't really a good topic to connect over. I don't mention it now unless someone directly asks me... a problem is only a problem a lot of the time when we give it power over us... I try not to label myself with limits of what was now. Also I'm sorry for what you have been through, keep your head up.

[Flower7]

Exclude because I don’t see how that would be relevant to a potential date.

[grungeberry]

So hard to decide. Maybe let them know if they ask?

[Anonymous]

That depends. Are you just trying to draw basic interest from women or trying to find that specific woman.

Having been through this before I'm sure you know already how judgmental women are. And how hard it is to find "the one". Especially at a more advanced age (as people have more baggage at this age and therfore quicker to judge).

[Mikestein]

Best to include it.

You're going to have to break it to them eventually. You'll just end up wasting yours and their time in the end if you don't tell them, and they're not interested once they find out.