Is it wrong to feel something for someone who’s already in a relationship?

[jenniferlewis]

I don’t think feelings are something we can always control. Sometimes, someone enters your life and their presence just… lingers. You notice the way they talk, how they smile when they don’t realize anyone’s looking. And you’re caught off guard by how natural it feels to care about them — even if you know it shouldn’t happen.

What matters most is what you do with those feelings. I once found myself quietly drawn to someone who wasn’t mine to love. I kept my distance, but I’ll be honest — it changed me. It made me realize how deep emotional connections can run, even in silence.

It’s not always about acting on those feelings. Sometimes it’s about understanding your heart and learning how to carry love without crossing lines.

[Finchie40]

Your feelings are your feelings , and sometimes we can’t help how we feel about someone , whether it’s considered right or wrong, that’s something only you can decide. Just because someone is in a relationship with someone else , it doesn’t mean we can’t have feelings for that person. Even though the respectful thing to do is to not act on it , but sometimes that’s not always the case, especially if that someone is into you as well, which unfortunately happens more than we like to think it does. Attraction and chemistry and connection is an amazing thing , that sometimes we can’t say No to and unfortunately, Not everyone tells the truth about their current relationship status , I have met some beautiful girls out in public that didn’t tell me they were in a relationship period even though they were, that I ended up making out with and sometimes having sex with me that didn’t tell me the truth until afterwards Sometimes immediately after we had sex or sometimes after we had sex a bunch of times or I found out the truth on my own. Either or , realized that is her problem not mine , if she wants to cheat on her partner , that’s something only she can decide on whether she wants to do or not. If I find out she was lying to me , then like everything else, their is consequences to our actions. Sadly there are a lot of liars and disrespectful people out there that don’t give 2 shits about whether they hurt someone’s’ feelings or not. I dated and had a lot of intimacy and affection with a girl for roughly 6 months that told me she was single when really she wasn’t , She played me good and got away with it for as long as she did because her partner traveled a lot for work , so she was able to play me because he was away a lot for work. I was clueless until her husband knocked on my door to confront me. I immediately told him the truth that I had no clue she was married and told him everything, because I actually felt kind of bad for the guy knowing his wife was doing that to him behind his back. After he left in tears , I called her and said WTF, your husband just confronted me and I told him everything about us , she cried and told me she doesn’t love him and that she loves me and explained to me why she doesn’t love him anymore and why she did what she did. Apparently he is a controlling abusive asshole to her and that’s why she did it and told me she was already in process of leaving him. Even though I was upset that she lied to me , I still had feelings for her and told her to leave him and to come be with me. I told her to not call me or see me until she leaves him completely and then hung up the phone. That was the last time I heard from her until she called me a few weeks later and told me she is working things out with her husband and that she is sorry for what she did. I told her I hope things work out for her and never seen or heard from her again. She wasn’t the only girl i experienced this with unfortunately, i experienced this over a handful of times with girls’ to the point I no longer care anymore unless I am caught in the middle of her problems , then that’s when I will put my foot down but otherwise , it’s not my problem. I know guys’ do this sort of thing as well , but I don’t date guys’ . Overall most people in general are selfish people , that only really care about themselves that shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone , because all they care about is themselves and what they feel is best for themselves. Sadly this sort of thing happens a lot , I have witnessed and experienced a lot of it through the years and unfortunately it’s something that will never end because we all have feelings , and when we have strong feelings for someone , anything can happen.

[ohsheeT]

Yes it seems like it happens the moment I would get in to a relationship things are fine

But like you said someone walks in to your life and it makes you think about it.

But now matter if you just started a new relationship or if your in its always going to happen.. then you truly find out who you are. ..
There are moments in life where you have to know who you are and you have to be bigger than the moment. It's life.. if your not true to yourself your not ture to anyone

[DishLady]

You *can* control your feelings. Think of a giant ice bucket landing on you every time you think of the person. Unpleasant? Yeah, that's the point. Soon you'll drop the feelings... they'll grow cold.

[jazzy34]

Bleh, my current dilemma, lol. As long as you don't act on, that's fine.

[RavVid]

I think you can shut down those feelings and should.

[TonyMetal___86]

It's wrong yes but as you said that we cannot control our feelings but we can control ourselves and respect other people's relationships

[SotiCoto]

It ain't wrong to feel, but it is 100% wrong to act on those feelings.

[LiamS95]

Not always, possibly you're both more suited to each other then to anyone else

[jjj101010]

Feel something, no. To act on it, yes. U can’t help who r attracted to, u can help if u doing something about it.

[Anonymous]

How was this person unique? What made u love them

[slatyb]

Feelings are never wrong. Actions can be.

[wkhan_87]

Yes it is morally wrong

[Anonymous]

It's toxic behavior to be sure.

[Anonymous]

Why are you using someone else’s photo?

[Zylos]

You sound deep.

[jahaims]

Duh.

[Anna123jj]

Yess

[In_Trance]

it's kinda pointless