My best friend suddenly asked me out on a date, is that weird?

[Anonymous]

We've been friends for many years and she recently asked me out, I never knew she even had feelings for me.

[TrimmedTip]

It’s not weird — it actually happens more often than you'd think.

Long-time friends can develop feelings over time, even if they don’t show it right away. Maybe she’s been thinking about it for a while and finally got the courage to tell you.

The real question is: how do you feel about it? If you’re open to the idea, it could turn into something great. If not, just be honest and respectful — the friendship can still survive with clear communication.

[Asker]

I'm very open, I just didn't think I was good enough for her.

[RavVid]

No I don't think so. Male female relationships can be very close and bonded without sex.

One told me recently she should have chosen me instead of the guy she married. By that time I knew her better and wasn't going down that path.

[Asker]

Going out with my bestie is very appealing to me personally.

[RavVid]

Platonic relationship do sometimes turn into sex fests. Hope so for you.

[DishLady]

How do you know she is asking you out and not just meeting up with you?

[Asker]

She told me it could be a date or not, that it was up to me, I said it was a date and she was happy.

[DishLady]

Aww! That's so rom-com sweet that I need to have a sip of very bitter coffee to counteract it... [PAUSING TO SIP].

So are you excited or what?

[Asker]

Very excited, I've started to fall for her myself recently. We used to be like brother and sister when we were younger, now it's become closer than that.

[Nikki1989]

No, not really. Very common actually.

[OlderAndWiser]

So what is your question? Are you bothered by this change?

[Anonymous]

No. But be cautious. Just cause she asked you out does not necessarily mean she wants to date you. I was friends with a woman for the better part of a decade and she did the same thing with me. But she was just fishing. Little did I know that was going to turn into one long game of catch and release with me. Ultimately culminating in me having to cut off all contact with her.

Hopefully she's the real deal man. But it's be cautious.

[WhitneySnow]

Not weird at all. Do you like her that way?

[Asker]

Yeah.

[WhitneySnow]

Cool! Then say yes.

[Asker]

It's some timing too, I recently had a fantasy dream about her.

[WhitneySnow]

Perfect! Maybe it’ll come true someday.