Help with getting rid of a crush?

[Howdy13]

There’s a girl at my gym that I’ve been developing a crush on and I can’t make it stop. I know it sounds crazy but I just don’t want to have these feelings, these never go well and just ends up making everything awkward and I don’t want to feel awkward about going to the gym. I just don’t know why I’m crushing on her so much. I don’t even talk to her but she’s always there the days I go. I try telling myself that it’s just a person i shouldn’t be having these feelings and she’s just there to workout. Or that it’s just some white girl, they rarely ever interested and usually neither am I. Now this is ruining my focus in the gym. Everytime she walks by i lose my focus, and start to think that she’s looking at me or think about talking to her. But that’s not why im at the gym for. I just want to workout and feel better about myself, not to try to find a relationship because I see a cute girl. Why am I crushing on her, I know she doesn’t want anything to do with me cause that’s how every crush has felt. I don’t want to make going to the gym awkward by trying to talk to her but I need to find away to get rid of this feeling before it makes me avoid going to the gym.

Updates

10 mo

I forgot to update this but I’m pretty sure she has a boyfriend, or at least shortly after posting this she would pull up to the gym with a guy and they would seem to be always pretty close to each other. And now I’m back in college so my workout schedule has been all screwed up and I haven’t been able to go as much so I don’t see her anymore.

[DishLady]

Well my goodness…


1. If it’s an option, switch gyms and get her off your mind.


2. Why not just ask her out before your fun bits fall off out of sheer frustration?


3. Don’t panic and don’t take it so seriously. People have crushes ALL the time.

[Howdy13]

Well I don’t want to switch gyms because my current one is affordable and close by my apartment and never too busy especially after work surprisingly.

I don’t want to ask her out because I’m constantly seeing her and I’m sure I’d get rejected and it’ll make going there really awkward especially if I run into her constantly. And I rather not bother anyone that doesn’t want to be bothered. We’re all just working out.

And I’m not trying to panic, I just don’t want to keep going through this again. I’m so over the feeling of having a crush that just ends up never working out and the awkwardness of it. I wanted to go to the gym to keep myself from it and focus on myself but here I am now crushing on a girl I can barely see without my glasses on unless she close by lol. And I really don’t want to bother anyone either.

[Ask105]

So you gotta get the courage to small talk with her each day after two weeks i would say im going to get some food would you like to come with you seem cool and also cute then 50 50 if she says i have a boyfriend or not interested the crush is over back to the grind simple is that if she denys casually friendly talk to her you see her again and on to the next crush walks in your genuinely how you feel is normal and your way if thinking

[Dongie]

Good tactics there. Then if she says no he's not in Siberia.

[Dongie]

Give it up lad! Enjoy the ride of being full blown nuts over the most beautiful and perfect woman on the planet! Soon enough, after you place your neck on the block and she chops it quiet soundly, you'll develop a hate that becomes almost as pleasurable as the love you once felt for that bitch!!

[Amy10223]

Ask her out for coffee after the gym if she seems interested in you.