What should I look for in a guy?

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With how dating is now and being 23 a lot of the guys I have talked to only want sex, I want to weed them out because that’s not all that I want.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Ok well all guys are different. Andbyes you need to make sex part of it even tho your not looking for it. It's just a matter of time before it happens. And you want a guyvthatvis goingbto make it all about you. Other wise you goingbto get a that is selfish last 2 mon is done and a sleep in 4 min so yes the guy needs to be romantic. And needs to be able to look into your eyes and tell you everything that he loves about you

You want a guy that is happy in life. It has no drama. If you find somebody with drama when you first start going out with him get out of it because they're just i'm telling you drama people are bad people. Find somebody that likes to hold your hand hold you close. Love to be out doors with you a guy that can make you laugh hard. A guy that believes in God. But be careful of getting a guy. That's full blown religion because that's just crazy.

A gut that respects you and like I said we know your not looking for sex but in time its going to happen. And he must make it all about you you need to be able to read the color of your cheeks. Your facial expressions the way you move the way you breathe the way you tdutch. Because that is you telling him everything that you want in that moment and if you can take you there then you're gonna want sex all the time. Because you will give you orgasm after orgasm.

And if a guy can't do that.
And you should even be with him.

Look there is way more to sex than just sex
The more people learn about energy within and frequency. There going to find that sex and frequency is very spiritual, and will take you places that are just totally unreal beautiful.. and becoming one with someone is very powerful

Ask105 · Accepted Answer

My best advice is to learn about how your brain works as a female! get psychology books etc i study behavior and psychology and if you get the correct information its life changing, obviously women like good men but to many of you are lured in to bad boy traits that will leave you with split alters in your mind and ruining relationships learn about boundaries and beware of certain persuasion methods from men and women and things you watch ! and very dangerous situations happen from the wrong guy , A good man is well i all use myself for an example im Christian man first responder and also a tradesman not perfect!! But im constantly working on myself, find a good guy look at these dating profiles apps what is his background what type of environment you think he Will put you in if a guy flirts with you on the street learn more about him areas he live in some of his past history you mention jail or gangs to some of them and i seen guys won't shut up they haven’t realized its not cool yet. I don't think good men were hard to find i do believe we’re just extremely overlooked find a hot male teacher funny example also beware of these new movements I'm seeing them destroy men and women learn to think for yourself more best of luck! Finding each-other don’t happen overnight i learned the hard way.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

What you need is personality, kindness and compassion, respect, intelligence, a sense of humor, honesty and integrity, good communication skills, and shared interests and values. Anything else is just a bonus.

Amy2004 · Accepted Answer

They will eventually leave once they know you won’t give them sex, it takes time.

HawkPerception · Answer

You're looking for a guy with a strong sense of morals and a romantic type that wants just one girl for life.

To find guys like that you also need to be the kind of girl that they want. You have to not be materialistic. No men want a materialistic women.

"A woman than can be bought isn't worth having."

Miristheiss · Answer

Figure out your value system and what you want from life. Live where? How to handle money, religion, marriage, kids, if so how many, acting single while married or not (clubbing alone, trips alone, friends of the opposite sex), purely monogamous or alternate lifestyle?

You've got to figure all of that out and then screen for that stuff right at the beginning when you are still talking and going on the first dates. If you are compatible then keep seeing him. If you are not then just move on.

If you want marriage and kids then you should live your life as if that is your goal. Don't be having sex with guys you aren't married to. Hold it for marriage and date for marriage. If guys just want to sleep around and stay casual or uncommitted just cut move on from them. Don't be casually sleeping around and putting career and trips and "fun" as your goal for the next 5 plus years.

Whatever your goal is you have to commit to living for that goal now.

SotiCoto · Answer

It is a matter of context, obviously. The topics of "dating" and "relationships" automatically go hand in hand with the topic of sex. If you speak to men in a "dating" context then most of them are just going to be there because they want to get laid.

Solution: don't go looking for "dating" at all. Just get a hobby or something and put yourself in a situation where the primary focus is on something other than pairing off... and you'll find others prefer to speak more about the hobby subject than anything to do with sex.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Sure guys want sex that is normal. But they need to be patient and understand that many girls want a connection first. Tell them upfront that you want a relationship before sex. Did you end up having sex wit a lot of these guys?

Anonymous · Answer

Women have truly shot themselves in the foot and now are forced to live with the pain because they reset expectations about casual sex. It has become the norm now, and men know if a woman doesn't "put out", there are plenty of others who will, so they just move on. Women know this and feel pressured to have sex before they want to or risk losing the guy.

Berethor · Answer

Tell them that you wait until marriage, that would weed them out. Look for a traditional guy.

cavedweller1973 · Answer

Look for a great personality and sense of humor and for a guy that is sensitive

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't matter, you're going to fail.

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