Hey, I don't know how to start, but is my character really that unattractive?

[funnyguy11]

Hey, I'm not ugly, I'm not poor either. I'm a normal guy. You could even say I look good. I'm tall, 6 feet tall, quite slim, and blond. I've never had a girlfriend. And it's not that I only go for girls who look like models. I think it's because of my personality; I seem soft. I'm too nice for that, but I'm also very fun and positive. I have my passions. I'm constantly ignored by women, or our stories just end badly. Tell me honestly, can I be too polite and nice and seem unattractive, but with nice girls I like makes jokes about her in good mood. Overall, I feel like I don't know why it's happening; no one I try to date wants me. I think it's because I'm nice and not overly dominant, but I can stand up for myself. What do you think? Thanks in advance.

[InknKink]

You need an emotionally attractive lifestyle. This doesn't mean you need excessive amounts of money. You simply need to live a lifestyle that a woman would want to be involved in. And there are all kinds of women who are attracted to different lifestyles.

Some women are cool with netflix and chill. Others want boats and beaches. Some like clubs and dancing. You need a life that a woman can see herself being involved in. It's particular to the specific person you're trying to attract. But yes, women do like money.

You need to be attractive; not elusively physical appearance, but style, fitness, and hygiene. We can all be more attractive to our potential prospects and there is always room for improvement.

You need to learn seduction. How to talk and be around women. You need to know how to communicate with women on their level. You cannot treat them like you do your guy friends. Women aren't literal in the same sense as men. They're coy and playful. They go about things in indirect ways. Women respond to emotional pulls.

Beyond this, make a female friend. This is often the ticket to opening doors to other women. If you don't have at least some female friends, it's a lot harder to attract women.

Women want men who other women want. Often hard to start down this path but investing your time in pursuing platonic relationships with women (ideally women who are at least somewhat interested in you) is often time well spent; especially if you're new to an environment.

And the MOST important thing to attracting women?

Make moves. Get shut down. Do not, do not, never ever fucking friendzone yourself. If you're interested in a woman, then make sure she dam well know it right from the jump.

The moment you set yourself up as the friend, the emotional support guy, the shoulder to cry on, the yes guy who will self sacrifice himself for her pleasure... you're getting nothing.

[Anonymous]

Probably not. Most women just live to break guys down.

This is guy101 stuff. Never give a 💩 what women think about you. It's seldom based in reality anyways. Oh you can lie all day to women and pretend for them. But never actually care.

[Lissssaa]

Hey, I don’t think your character sounds unattractive at all. Being kind, positive, and respectful are really good qualities. A lot of people think being “too nice” is the reason they get ignored, but honestly it’s more about finding the right person who values that. Sometimes girls might get drawn to louder or more dominant personalities at first, but that doesn’t mean they’ll always overlook guys like you. it could just be timing, or the type of people you’ve crossed paths with so far. The right girl won’t see your kindness as weakness—she’ll see it as one of the best things about you. So don’t change into someone “less nice” just to get attention. Stay yourself, and with time you’ll find someone who appreciates exactly that.

[funnyguy11]

That you i think that I I'm not confident enough.

[OneViewpoint]

Sounds like you lack confidence and women read that as weakness. Try talking less and listening more while saying "no" more often.

[spartan55]

Your lack of humility and self awareness is like bug repellant.

[funnyguy11]

But I have humility and self awareness

[spartan55]

You certainly don't come across that way.

[Anonymous]

I also consider myself unattractive, but what can I do... maybe girls will like me more if I win the lottery jack-pot.