Talking to girls outside?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone, I’ve been struggling a bit socially in Sweden and I’d like your advice. I find it difficult to meet and talk to women here. In some places it feels more normal to start a conversation in the street or in a park, but I’m not sure if that’s acceptable in Sweden or in other European countries, or how people would react.

For example, if I see a girl sitting in a park, is it okay to just walk up, tell her she seems interesting, and ask for her Instagram? Or would that come across as un

[Ask105]

That’s completely fine i would try to get her number tho and after you seem interesting saying to her compliment her on something she has on or talk about some things you noticed in the park and could ask her how she doing today you seem pretty relaxed etc go off her responses and be like i know this is random but i know a good cafe around here we should go together but i need your number

[Asker]

Its not easy with swedish girls

[Ask105]

Brother its not easy with any girls the girls in America are incredibly dismissive until you find the one that actually wants to talk to you

[Asker]

My problem is social anxiety and i dont like being rejected.. i look good but going to a girl sitting in the park what to start asking I would look weird

[Ask105]

Check a book called ( dating without fear ) on amazon i may have it worse then you but i think this book is extremely helpful its a clinical psychologist’s that struggle with it and he helped himself and many clients we debilitating fears and i begin to start talking to them and its not so bad but its still hard if you want to learn your gonna have to study all your issues and insecurities like me the main thing is whether you see them again or not you can rule them off the list and at-least you don't go home with regret

[slatyb]

Don't ask for a date one minute after you see someone. You might give a non-threatening compliment about her style (never about her body). If she engages for a few minutes, then ask. It's better to start conversations in more social settings, or find activities attended by single women. If you join a group, don't immediately hit on the single women. Give it a couple of months and you will know who might be receptive. If you are friendly and make a contribution, they will be asking you out.

[Asker]

No its not about asking a date.. i m very shy.. the problem is starting

[Anonymous]

Ask for Instagram?

What the fuck is wrong with people nowadays?

[Asker]

Just exmple.. why you being rude? Ok how you wanna stay in contact? Asking for ig better than privacy number.. and learn to speak well

[Shiprex]

I've just left Sweden and it isn't an easy place to just rock up to someone and start a conversation especially with women. They're very confident in their power and aren't likely to be open to random guys hitting on them so much in public places. The country itself has one of the highest rates of single person households because relationships are very easily ended without a whole lot of animosity mostly and folk tend to be more self reliant than partner seeking.

[Asker]

Thats why im not confident to start a conversation

[Shiprex]

It's difficult for sure

[beefcakebradybatson]

If she doesn't beat you up or call the cops, you should be OK, especially if you're handsome.

[Asker]

Huh cops? Do i have a knife 🔪?

[theionano3]

Just have confidence

[Asker]

Agree

[theionano3]

You’ll be okay