What advice on dating/finding a good man can you give me?

Question

I’m 23 and have only had 1 boyfriend before, I haven’t had any guys come up to me to compliment me or ask me on a date before, I also don’t do hook up.

if you could provide me with tips or even encouragement on how to find a guy that’s worth giving my time to I would greatly appreciate it. I would definitely like to avoid lustful men, as I want to be with someone who isn’t full of lust all the time.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Ok so first of all. Focus on you first n and be honest with yourself

We are how you feel. Is how you're going to project yourself? What you believe in is how you're going to project yourself. We are all energy. Everything on this planet is made from energy. You have to understand that first so you understand a guy

Love yourself believe in yourself have that confidence

You always remember no matter who you date. You are the boss. You are the one that's in controf yourself and you make the rolls

Okay so just have to be honest here
Every guy on this planet every girl on this planet can feel lust. And becomes lusty at times.

When a guy like you he's going to fill your energy
With?
A bond that you create with each other.
That energy grows the bond grows. You want to cuddle? You want to touch you want to feel

And that's okay in a relationship

But if you're in a club are walking down the sare. Any you come in contact with somebody that thinks you're beautiful. They can feel your energy. You can feel their energy.

The deeper somebody understands energy.
Is the deeper? They're going to feel you

The thing ISIS most guys. Don't understand what's going know. They just see somebody beautiful. And they're beautiful and they're body. Yes their brain reacts but they don't know how to control that

So that's when the flirting starts
You need to be able to look into a guy's eyes and actually listen to every word that he says to you, because he will tell you his intentions from the moment he starts talking to you, he doesn't know that he's doing this. But if you you will know

There's no magic formula.
I'm picking out the right guyou just have to know who you are. Listen, pay attention to everything he says and does and how he even talks to other people or if he talks about other people. That will tell you everything right there.

But I don't care who's a guy is what type of guy he is the moment you have eye contact. He's going to feel your energy. And then he's gonna look into your eyes. Look at your beauty from within your heart first hopefully

And he's going to fill this energy. The same ocean come from you

So when you know yourself you love yourself. You set boundaries right at the very beginning

You said I don't walk up to you and start talking to you
So since they don't and let's say somebody does.
Just because he does doesn't mean that he's the right. Allow yourself to go there insane. Some guys interested in me, so I have to date him. That would be a big mistake

But find yourself love yourself. Be that person you want to be because it's inside of you. Be smart wise. Be happy smile, be confident because with that glow. You project yourself out there, so guys will look at you and will want to walk up to you and talk to you.

I don't even know you. I've never seen you but just what's the word that I read? You are a very beautiful person and? The only thing I can say is sometireally beautiful girls don't get asked out. Because guys think that they're so beautiful that they must already have somebody

I kind of feel that way towards you. Maybe that's what's going on

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

If you want a high-quality man, you need to be a high-quality woman. You can't have slept around. You can't be posting provocative images of yourself in bikinis and stuff online. Dressing femininely can be beneficial (such as in flowy dresses). The less makeup you use to mask your face, the better. Working out regularly will also improve your figure and make you more desirable, as well as increase your own confidence.

In terms of personality, act femininely. Be elegant and soft spoken. Not loud and obnoxious. Be kind and considerate of everyone, but most of all to the man you're interested in. Show you're passionate about some things in life. Show genuine interest in what a guy is saying, especially so if you like him.

In terms of meeting guys, be receptive and smile at people. Be approachable so it makes it easier for them to approach you in person. If you're interested in a guy, don't just give them a look and expect that's enough for them to approach you. Tell them you'd love to talk. If you're on a hike and see a guy you think is cute, don't hesitate to stop them and ask them for their number. Most guys are receptive and would love to be approached by a woman. And they respect it, because they know how hard it is to approach someone themselves.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

Be intentional with your dating experience. If you ultimately want a serious relationship then start setting that standard from the start. Asking the right questions (and doing so on the sooner side) is important, as is being able to walk away if the answers to those questions don’t align with what you’re looking for. Back when I was on the dating scene, one of the first questions I’d ask a guy were either what are his intentions for talking to me, or what is he looking for right now.

Responses like: “I’m not sure what I want yet” “I’m just going with the flow, seeing what’s out there” “I just got out of a relationship so nothing serious” or simply “nothing serious” because his life is busy or whatever; any of that dialog immediately made them not an option. Usually those are the guys who are going to waste your time. Patience is important too, because it can really take some time to find a guy who isn’t emotionally unavailable and actually wants to work towards a healthy relationship. Lastly, try not to settle if your patience is running out.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

If you're still in school, I would start there. If you're not, like another person said, join clubs, go out and do different things like bowling, skating, rock climbing etc. Places where you might meet someone.

Dating apps would be the last resort. At your age, you really shouldn't rely on it too much. I'm on the apps because I'm extremely busy and an introvert but if it wasn't for that, I would be joining clubs to meet guys or going out way more than I do.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

You need to find a guy doing activities, in your class at school, in a group you belong to, someone you see everyday, basically you want to date the kind of guy that would be interested but too afraid to approach for fear of messing everything up.

whattodo871 · Answer

Putting yourself out there by joining a club, taking a class of an interest you like can put you into a pool of people and possible suitors that are really worth your time. I wouldn't recommend dating apps too much, maybe as a last resort, as people present themselves in kind of a biased way sometimes.

slatyb · Answer

Find activity groups that attract men. Outdoor activity groups are great, or gaming groups if you are into that. Try volunteering for home construction or maintenance, like Habitat for Humanity.

scott04sa22 · Answer

Its very hard to find faithful people nowadays with everybody's options open.

Anonymous · Answer

If you want a non lustful man , go on Christian mingle it’s about the only place you’ll find them

Anonymous · Answer

Use your head and not your heart. That is the single biggest mistake women make.

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