Is it bad to tell a guy you recently started dating you have been a little hurt by him and don’t want to continue?

[Anonymous]

I recently started dating a guy. He cancelled , due to understandable reasons, two dates. I was anticipating that he would reschedule to this weekend, but he didn’t. This is really not ok for me, and despite how much I like him I am going to tell him that I don’t want to continue things, in a polite way. Is it bad to tell him I’ve also been left feeling a little hurt by his actions, or should I leave that part out?

[Vevv123]

You can also try rescheduling with him, i think it’s something very minimal, but It’s understandable that it might be odd for him not to show interest in rescheduling. You should definitely communicate certain things with him just so he has a better understanding of why and maybe he even has an explanation. Regardless it’s always best to be clear, that way he knows there might be certain characteristics that he needs to work on or maybe both of you are just entirely different or not compatible and he will understand why.

[HollyK21]

No, I actually think the sooner you end it the better. That’s the point of dating, to find a guy that matches what you want and know when to leave when he isn’t aligning with that.

[ohsheeT]

Look this is about you and who you are and want to be. And how you want to be treated...

So if your doing it to see if he will say wait I will change then tell him everything

Or your telling him because your being real.

The more you tell him the more drama will come out and the more time wasted.

[Zack-Bann]

You don’t have to make a drama scene out of it but you can be clear about the reasons


Just say what you feel in a clear and cordial way and tell him it’s over

[DishLady]

He probably doesn’t care that he’s hurting your feelings. Telling him will make you look weak and float right over his head. Just say “this isn’t working for me” and leave it at that.

[bowenw]

If you want to give him something to get into an argument about, mention it, otherwise just tell him it's not working for you without any other explanation.

[Asker]

He’s actually a really nice guy, he wouldn’t argue with me

[bowenw]

My guess is he'll be hurt himself if you tell him you are hurt and because you're breaking up with him he won't have the opportunity to try to make it up to you.

[BadApple69]

Leave that part out. Just break it off clean without drama.

[Anonymous]

Of course it's fine. Doesn't mean he'll just say, "ok" though.

Communication is NEVER a bad thing. Better you both not waste eachother time if you're just not right for eachother.

[Staximus]

How many dates have you been on with this clown?

[Anonymous]

How did he hurt u?