Why would a guy just straight up share his "red flags"?

[Anonymous]

I'm crushing on someone and I think is reciprocated. Like 90% sure. However, he will casually just mention his red flags (or what he considers to be red flags). Stuff like having an addictive personality and being neurotic. He shares past and current personal problems too. Like the type of stuff I'd only tell my therapist. Is he testing my reaction to see if I'll put up with it? Is he just too open with stuff (he is an oversharing autistic, as am I)? Is he trying to push me away? Is he just pre-warning me? There's nothing he has said that I can't handle. Honestly he'd be a breath of fresh air compared to what I've dealt with in the past lmfao.

if you've done this or been through this, I'd love to hear your answer/thoughts (pls don't tell me to just run for the hills)

[ohsheeT]

Because some guys what you to know the truth up front. Instead of hiding and being a con man about it

This guy is better than is telling you, is? Yes, he has problems. Yes, he is acknowledging them. Yes, he's him coming. Yes, he tries to prevent him or does something about them? He's aware he must make you aware, so you're not freaked out. He's dealing with it is when he's telling you.

You think he's pushing?
You away because he's telling you, but no. He wants you to know everything about him because he likes you

He's the complete opposite of a guy that cheats are a guy that lies or guys that hide things. This guy's a good guy

[Asker]

he is definitely a good guy! i think he might be a bit scared tbh, i think i've made it clear that nothing he has said has been a turn off hopefully!!

[ohsheeT]

Well just let him go at his own pace that way you doesn't overload or think too much.
And you'll be fine

[Anonymous]

I'm normally a very private and stoic person. I have only done something like that out of desperation, because I developed serious feelings for a girl. I felt like my best chance was to be honest with her, so she understood some of my questionable behavior.

[Screenwriter]

I think very often people DO tell you exactly who they are RIGHT UP FRONT. But more likely than not, most people they're telling this to are not listening when in the throes of "rose colored glasses" or the lots-of-sex-at-first events.

I think this person is refreshing. LISTEN TO WHAT HE's SAYING!!! Make notes if you can't remember all of it, or ask him to repeat what he said. Because, more than likely, these issues will rear their heads sometime down the road.

Just remember he told you so and at the time you appreciated it. Good luck!

[Asker]

it is definitely refreshing! and makes me think more and helped take the rose colored glasses off. i'm willing to deal with whatever comes so it's nice knowing what to expect

[aceleon]

why do you think he is autistic?

i tell my red flags straight away too, i see no reason to hide them, i don't want to play an act all the time to please someone.

[Asker]

oh he's diagnosed haha we both are

[aceleon]

then is there even anything to question? he is autistic.
weren't most of you like oversharing and unnecessarily honest?

[Staximus]

What you would only tell your therapist might be something somebody else would tell a casual passersby. Everybody dies not think like you or like somebody else.

[Anonymous]

Crazy thought, maybe he's just honest and you're just not familiar with that.

[Anonymous]

He’s autistic.