Do you think it’s more romantic when a guy plans everything or when it’s spontaneous?

[Kayla45]

I think both have their strengths, but I wanna know which one is perceived to be more thoughtful?

[Purpleronnie]

Thoughtful gestures are generally romantic , doesn’t have to be planned , elaborate or costly. Some of the smallest gestures I have received or made have had the biggest relative impact.


At the heart of it thought is how much he considered YOU in the spontaneity or planned gesture. Throwing money at it is easy but being able to read you and demonstrate his ability to know what you want… well that’s proper romance 💘

[Zack-Bann]

True spontaneity doesn’t exist
Even spontaneous people usually have some kind of a plan of at least a general idea on the things they do on the spur of the moment


Someone with 0 plan won’t even be able to come up with spontaneous ideas on the spot

[Wuai201]

Spontaneously planned

For example, he ask you what you're doing for the weekend, you tell him nothing and then he tells you that you have something to do on the weekend now, tells you, and see if your fine with the plan.

[DishLady]

Half and half is fine. Having everything pre-planned leaves no room for organic chemistry.

[AviatorTom]

How about a plan to be spontaneous? In other words, a plan to go somewhere or do something where the couple can add their own spontaneity.

[ohsheeT]

I only have one way and thats spontaneously

[dwreborn]

It depends on what it is my wife would like our anniversary to be planned and out to a nice place and stuff but just going out to find something to do spontaneous for that just drive until something interests us

[Anonymous]

No. Some women just think that way because in her mind it shows extra effort. But the reality is a lot of those women are terrible partners that just want to be fussed over. There's nothing wrong with preferring the guy to plan everything. But there's also something to be said for knowing your partner and not expecting something that is out of character from him or her.

[Opinion Owner]

Most guys (if the woman chose well) want to make thier partners happy. But he can't read minds. Try to remember that.👍

[Coden7]

I like plans. But not “Have to be rock solid plans”. If something doesn’t go as planned, it shouldn’t be a big deal, unless it’s a flight, that’s a pretty big deal haha

[Amy10223]

I like spontaneity. I think it's creative and shows a flexible mind.

[FreyaRed]

Spontaneity can be interesting but it can be very annoying if it's served not right.

[LØRDOFÐΞBUG-RA]

Being balanced is good. A guy who plans everything is boring you need to be spontaneous once in a while.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Probably more organised to have some sort of resemblance to a scheduled schedule / you feel?

[Iron_Man]

It’s the surprise that makes it romantic, not knowing what to expect and watching it all play out

[Xoirwinkan]

I've tried the more spontaneous type thing, the girl just thought I wasn't prepared or taking it seriously.

[Cubus]

I think more romantic is planning, cause it takes effort.

[Wiredone]

He shouldn't plan everything. You have to let chemistry do it's thing

[CaptainSmartass]

I suppose its a little from Column A, a little from Column B.

Simples...

[qwerty2469]

If a girl thinks anything a guy does is spontaneous, its because she is stupid. He planned it out for decades.

[Anonymous]

I like dominant girls, so I would prefer that she plans everything.

[serious]

Planning in advance is more romantic

[blackeagle007]

I think each side should give a little

[bunniesrcute]

plans for sure, i dont like surprises

[thegreenyogi]

A bit of both.