Guys, How would you react if you found out that another guy has paid for your girlfriend or wife's coffee?

[Anonymous]

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8 mo

What if he did it while you were at home, working or whatever?

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8 mo

In this context, clearly she knows about it and accepts it.

[foxsquirrell]

I would react with extreme bitterness. That is bordering on the verge of betrayal. She let him pay for her drink? Does she like him?

No its very bad. I would not take that lightly if I was in love. If I was just with her I will probably tolerate it for a while until I find someone else or cut the relationship short, and then she can enjoy as many coffees with the guy as she wants.

[HighValue]

If she accepted it it is disrespectful to the relationship and grounds to end the relationship if it continued.

[Finchie40]

I would say that’s cool or that was nice of him , and not make a big deal about it

[AviatorTom]

I'd probably just ignore it. I trust my wife. If I didn't, we wouldn't be married.

[MannMitAntworten]

Fairly indifferent. I mean it has happened and she told me about it so I didn’t think anything of it.

[Purpleronnie]

🤷‍♂️. … likely happens every other day at work , why on earth would I care?

[Shoichiro]

Work is also apparently the place where the vast majority of affairs occur.

[Purpleronnie]

What so I’m suddenly going to loose my lady of 13 years over a free coffee? That’s ridiculous. Oh wait they also go for drinks on a Friday , should I camp outside the bar with my binoculars? Or tell her she can’t go because I don’t trust her enough not to mess around behind my back? … grow up … People have affairs because they are ‘damaged’ end of story

[Shoichiro]

I'm just relaying the statistics. Note that I never claimed that this happens in all cases, but people do get cheated on and this makes up the majority according to what I've read and heard. And who's to say that the western work culture is the optimal work culture when it comes to maintaining stable marriages? It doesn't look like it to me given the divorce rates in the US.

I also often hear about men being denied sex from their wives and it isn't surprising at all to me especially since these men typically have some average body. I'm not sure how a woman can be aroused by that and I see why they may be incentivized to cheat if their sexual needs aren't met.

[Purpleronnie]

Haha , you actually sound like a cheater because you seem to
think in terms of gratification.
A woman cheats on her partner
because his average body, doesn't fulfill her sexually? .. and where is the correlation between his average body and female sexual fulfillment? This sort of thinking just screams ignorance to me. Sure a woman , like a man may find a better than average body more visually attractive but bodies don’t remain like that do they ? And that alone isn’t anywhere near enough to sustain a relationship !! People generally cheat when the need for self gratification outweighs the intimacy they gain from the relationship , with the serial cheaters so ‘broken’ that they really struggle with intimacy and let’s just forget about the sex addicts , it’s obvious they have a mental disorder. So you go ahead and think what you like , you’re entitled to your opinion and I will respect that. Clearly I would never agree with it.

[Shoichiro]

I have not cheated on anyone. Whether I sound like that to you is up to you.

Whether a body remains attractive is a different story. However there is more than enough evidence to see that men who are in-shape are generally found to be more attractive to women.

I also never said that having an attractive body alone was enough to sustain a relationship - but I did mention the incentive to cheat if someone isn't getting sexual gratification from their partner. As far as I'm concerned, if I get married, I will try to make it as easy as possible for my wife to not succumb to the temptation of cheating, assuming she is being tempted. At the end of the day, she is MY wife, therefore it's in my interests to make sure she's satisfied.

By the way, I've experienced the difference in female attention I get after getting in shape and it is obvious. If you try it yourself you'll see that I'm not lying and then maybe you'll wonder why women in relationships are giving you attention (this happened to me).

[Purpleronnie]

Honestly , I can’t even follow what your point is anymore , I’m not sure you even know and I’m certain it’s not even relevant.
I’m not interested in how many other women will find me attractive. I’m only concerned with how much my partner is attracted and attractive to me. Do you even understand what intimacy and maturity are? Do you understand that a relationship or marriage is about so much more than finding each other objectively attractive? A woman being tempted by another man or woman isn’t just about how they look !.

Im bored now though , so won’t be replying again , you do you

[Shoichiro]

Initially I was simply pointing out that cheating is possible, and just because it isn't feasible to spy on your partner 24/7 doesn't mean your partner won't cheat (which is contrary to what you seemed to think based on your responses).

And forget other women - try getting in shape and observe how your wife's behavior changes. You don't even need to tell me, just do it for your own curiosity.

[Billlewis]

I'd much rather be the pay pig who's buying her (or better yet, both of them) drinks, meals and refreshments initially, before graduating to bigger and better things, like new shoes for both of them, vacations, etc.

[Lliam]

Paid for her coffee? My machoness would be offended. I would be obliged to murder him and all his relatives as a lesson to others. It's a matter of honor.

[WindAtMyBack]

I suppose it depends somewhat on the circumstances, but if all he did was pay for coffee I couldn't care less. It's just coffee, so what?

[Miristheiss]

I'd need more details.

Where was she. Did she know about it and accept it. Was he someone she knows or a stranger. I'd have to hear a full scenario.

[genericname85]

lol i'd welcome it. if he likes wasting his money on a taken girl, he should be free to do that. i don't mind saving a few bucks xD and obviously, he's not gonna get anything for his investment.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Because I'm a flippant guy "oh wonderful, a free drink" - times are tough economically lol 😆 😂

[DrPepper12]

Sucker. Good job sweetheart! Hope it was a pleasant interaction!

[Twalli]

I don't care if someone else is paying for what she wants. She's not leaving me. I want a Switch 2 and I'm trying to find a way to have someone else pay for it.

[Fireguy17]

Its fine with me.

I trust her, and she has male friends so that wouldn't be unusual.

[Sal_Monella]

Business colleague? No problem. Left over 50's courtesy. There is no obligation.

[Anonymous]

Duel. There is only room for one of us on this green Earth.

[OneViewpoint]

What’s the issue?

[zagor]

Cool, saved us a few bucks.

[exitseven]

I would punch him out.

[qwerty2469]

Lol. Simp. Make him pay for my phone bill

[blackeagle007]

Good, $ saved