Why are the women that pick Black men as a preference never like hard-working and faithful Black men?

[Anonymous]

So I will preface this by saying that this is a serious post, and not some racist ragebait. All responses to this should be thoughtful, and I apologize in advance if this comes across as offensive as this is not my intention for the post.

So I have noticed that when it comes to any race, there are usually 3 kinds of people:

1) Those that like them (their type)

2) Those that are indifferent to them (a. k. a. equal opportunity daters)

3) Those who aren't attracted to them.

In case you're wondering, I'm only referring to group 1 here and not group 2. If you're with a Black man but you're OK with everyone, this isn't referring to you.

There are a group of women (of all races) that choose Black men as their type and for whatever reason, these women always end up going for the same type of guy. Dark-skinned, tall with Dreads and tattoos. OK, that might have been a cliche, but you get my point.

These women have their idea of "what it means to be Black" and if you as a Black man don't fall into that, they call you lame. If you don't smoke weed, play basketball, listen to hip hop or use the n word, to them you're "white". As a Black man myself, I find it extremely offensive that someone thinks my Blackmess is tied to my behavior rather than my lived experience.

If you're a Black man that watches anime, listens to pop, plays chess and plays the guitar, you're not Black to them. If you're a Black man that's not from the hood, you're not Black to them. If you're a Black man that's not toxic or abusive, you're not Black to them.

Being a Black man isn't all about the struggle, some of us grew up with amazing parents that took care of us. For those that did not, I empathize with you and I respect you. I however don't want my image to be associated with every negative aspect of you, and I hope you understand.

So if you are in category 1 from what I have listed, can you please stop demanding toxicity from Black men? It doesn't help anyone.

[Staximus]

It's okay to be black and not have the ghetto mentality. I have two friends I went to high school with that I still know to this day that grew up in Compton. They are black but did not have the ghetto mentality because their parents made sure that they were properly educated, and also wanted their kids to make it out of the hood alive.

[Asker]

It's not a matter of it being Ok or not, I'm affirmed in my position. I don't change my behavior to attract women like that.

The problem is these women create babies with these dudes, and then these kids grow up without fathers, and then WE get blamed for it.

[Staximus]

Just get good on guitar and razzle dazzle the girls with that rockstar bullshit, they love that

[Asker]

I'm actually more into the Spanish guitar, not the electric guitar haha. I still think it's a very cool instrument.

[Anonymous]

white women do seem to have his lust for toxically masculine black thugs and rappers while a well-mannered black guy like Dr Ben Carson is a turn off to them

[Asker]

My question wasn't really just about white women.

This can be observed in any race of woman if she says "I like dreadheads" or "I only like Black men" and usually when you ask them to elaborate, they start describing Future or NBA youngboy.

Black women are also included, Latinas are also included and some rare Asian Baby Girl (a. k. a. hood Asians) that like a very specific type of Black man. More like Tupac, but not like Will Smith.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Cause they don’t want a black man they want a nigga

[Asker]

I know your white ass here trying to be edgy and throw around the slur like we didn't notice.

If I don't use it, what makes you think I will let YOU use it. Gtfo here loser.

[guesswhereivebeen]

If I was trying to be racist I would have put an ER on the end… good job virtue signaling…

[Asker]

Fuck off

[Cheerfull009]

Their big cocks and long stamina

[Asker]

Weirdo troll