Guy I am seeing is extremely flaky?

[Anonymous]

I have met this guy on Tinder. We met once at a and everything was good. Well we talked for a bit but he went ghost for several weeks. I told him my feelings and he said he was sorry and we been talking again for several weeks. The issue is we planned 5 dates since late September and he cancelled all of them. He said he is busy , but i do not know if he is playing me or he is seeing someone else. If you do not have time for a relationship just be honest with the person instead of leading me on. I am starting to get upset because if it becoming rude to keep cancelling. I do not think he is serious about me and plus he is very vague in his text. he contacts me everyday but he did want to go to a hotel with me a couple weeks ago and I declined or maybe he is not into meeting again because he is not going to get sex so he is not into meeting me. I do not understand.

[Kabluie]

Sure is a lot of obsession over meeting once, then you denied the next date or sex for unclear reasons. Likely he has other relationships going on, and if you aren't going to progress when others will with them, they may string along until you either say yes or go away.

[Anonymous]

You’ve met this guy once. Why are you still talking to and obsessing over him when he’s acting like this? Seriously? You should have moved on at the first sign of disrespect and definitely shouldn’t keep talking to him now, but yet here you are obsessed with him for unclear reasons. It seems like you’re not ready for dating or relationships of you’re neurotic over an asshole you went on one date with months ago. Maybe therapy should come first.

[DishLady]

The therapy comment is on the harsh side, no? She probably just likes the guy, a-hole or not. Pretty sure everyone falls into that well while looking for water, Missy….

[DishLady]

Seems he's not interested and just keeping you on the hook. Drop the guy.

[hemo821]

Honestly as a guy i think he doesn’t like you and just wanted easy sex so when you rejected him that was it for him
Doesn’t mean what you did is wrong means he was

[Summeroflove]

Well the first problem… you met someone online not saying everyone online is bad… a lot of people are there for casuals.. You know someone they don’t know so there isn’t really a lot of consequences as well as easy.

When someone ghosts you it’s cowardly unless there was a drastic change in someone’s life. Just leave them be… It isn’t worth your time begging for their attention or demanding a exclamation as to why they stopped talking. If they won’t give you the time of day. Move on…

I don’t know… chances are he is on there a lot probably seeing other people and playing people. Narcissists tend to love that game of seeing how much control they have over someone and enjoy hurting others. Other people are simply cowards.

[Abbycado]

Alright.

[In_Trance]

He's married