Is it wrong that I'm not interested in starting a relationship with women older than 28, and I'm 32?

[Cool3991]

I've been putting a lot of work into finding my soulmate the last few years. I have a good life and great job, the one thing missing in my life is the girl of my dreams. I really want to find my special someone to spend my life with, It means a lot to me. One of my female friends suggested a girl we're both aquatinted with. She's also looking for something serious and she seems really nice. She's the same age as me, 32. But I told my friend that 28 was the oldest I was willing to go, she got upset and asked why. I told her It's kind of a red flag for me when an attractive girl is still looking for a guy in her 30s. There's usually a reason they're still single. Either they're standards are unrealistic or they're crazy. She argued that they could just be focused on their career and school. That's a good point, but the other part is I can still easily attract girls in their 20s. I've actually done better with women in my 30s than my 20s, just none have worked out in the long run yet. I do feel bad about it, but when given the option between a 32 year old and a 24 who are both interested in me, it's just natural to go with the 24 year old. I feel like they are more carefree and exciting as well. My friend said that's a douchy thing to say. I just feel like it's my preference though

[Zack-Bann]

Nothing wrong with painting a picture of your ideal partner


But you’re doing yourself a disservice by not recognizing that people cannot be categorized


We are individuals


You met a woman who seems like she’s your “soulmate” but she happens to be 31


Maybe she was in med or law school so she postponed her dating life a bit


Maybe she was engaged for a lot of years and ended up breaking up with


Or any other of a thousand things that can leave her single at 31 without her being a “ran through hoe”


You don’t have to date her it’s still your choice
But you can greatly benefit from having a nuanced outlook on dating instead of rigid parameters of selection

[HawkPerception]

We're kind of in the same boat man. Women past the age of 30 (the ones who don't have kids already) are jaded and misandrists. They're less open to new experiences and kind of set in their ways. They also have less energy and less care about relationships. Why would any guy choose that over the opposite?

I'm not saying there aren't ANY women past the age of 30 without those negatives, but it's definitely much less common.

[SueShe]

It may be a red flag to date someone with enough maturity but believe me, for most women it is an even bigger red flag when a guy only wants to date women that are barely adults. It's like a crib stealer.

It tells a lot about that person. It means to me that this person (you in this case) does have an issue with women that have opinions of their own and prefer "children" that can still be manipulated and motivated to obey what you say and command.

Whether it is wrong or not is only to the woman that is silly enough to agree with that request to know.

[bunnyboo24]

No not at all. You can have any standards youd like. doesn't mean you will get it but 28 is very realistic if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not wrong. But you're shrinking your dating pool unnecessarily. So the only one you're hurting by doing this is yourself.

Kind of like women who say they won't date a guy under 6 feet. They're eliminating 85% of men right off the bat. The only person they're hurting is themselves.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Sounds a little like me - at 31 - I ain't dating anyone older than 29 😈😋 basically 20-29 women are my jam 😁 🥪🍞

[Anonymous]

Boys in their early 30's and still no partner? Big red flag, I agree. Ohhhhhh, you're hypocrisy prevents you from applying that to both genders. No wonder you're 32 and single-it's you.

[beefcakebradybatson]

As long as they're 18+, you're good to go. (Though an 18-year-old chick with a 32-year-old dude is, well, somewhat risky.)

[In_Trance]

Whatever tickles your balls I guess