Interracial dating?

[jcoffey612]

I’m a white male thats attracted to black women. I’ve never been with one, but would like to be. I see a lot of black guys with white women. Are black women attracted to white men?

[emeraldsaphire]

It depends on the women, but I'd imagine many might be hesitant and not for the reason you think. I'm not black, but I'm a quarter Japanese. I identify as "white" normally because I was raised in a town that was like 99%, white, I have had very little connection with my Japanese routes and I'm white passing.

There is a huge fetish for Asian women among white men. It normally isn't a problem for me because I look white, but I have talked to guys and when I've told them I was part Japanese they got more interested. This was a huge turn off for me.

Most women don't want to be your fetish, now I'm not saying that you have a black fetish, but I just want to say that some black women might be weary of that.

[Ariesman81]

@emeraldsaphire

Do you realize how insane that sounds?

[emeraldsaphire]

@Ariesman81 what? that women don't want to be fetishized?

[Ariesman81]

A guy finds something about you appealing, and your reaction to that is... eeew?

[emeraldsaphire]

@Ariesman81 I'm only "eeeew" if that's the only thing they like about me. Lets say a women finds it appealing that you make 6 figures a year, but they only want you to buy them things and take them on dates. Wouldn't that be a turn off for you?

[Ariesman81]

It's two different things. I understand my salary makes me attractive. Whereas, it seems like you genuinely don't want to be seen as attractive for who you are.

[emeraldsaphire]

@Ariesman81 My husband thinks I'm attractive, he likes certain things about me and things I do, but he treats me like a human and not a fetish dispenser. That's the difference

[Ariesman81]

Whatever. I'm pretty sure you use kimonos instead of bathrobes

[emeraldsaphire]

@Ariesman81 In the last few years, I've tried to connect with my Japanese routes. I own a Kimono now, but they aren't bathrobes. They are very traditional and formal attire. That's like saying wearing a tux instead of Pajamas.

[Ariesman81]

Grandmother i presume? And I hope you're not suggesting a tux can't be used as pajamas

[emeraldsaphire]

@Ariesman81 yup! And yes you can wear them as PJs, but who does that? The problem is the US doesn't have a traditional dress equivalent

[SueShe]

I am Caucasian but do see the occasional black woman walking along a Caucasian man.

That would mean that there are women that are indeed attracted to white men. The reasons can be multiple but could also be the decision to potentially climb the social ladder as some may see it. I am in no way assuming that black people are in a lower social class but that is the result of chats with black people that have confirmed that fact.

Other factors may include the physical or intellectual attraction towards a person of a different skin color.

Whatever the reasons are, this is fact that interracial dating is becoming increasingly popular.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I've dated African women. It seems to me that black women born in Africa are more open to dating white men. I have a friend who went to Kenya for a couple months and got a reply from every single woman he liked and messaged on Tinder.

[Pterodon]

My girlfriend is black. I’m her first white at all. Yes some do find us attractive and there are some that only date white. Good luck

[Amy_Mi]

Attraction isn’t a universal rule, it’s personal, individual, and shaped by energy, confidence, and authenticity.

Some black women are attracted to white men, some aren’t just like in any group, preferences vary widely.

What matters most is how you carry yourself, respect boundaries, and show genuine interest without assumptions.

Connection is earned through presence and alignment, not demographics.

[petitedollbabee]

Yes, there are many black women out there who are attracted to white men.

[In_Trance]

Can't generalize