What is the problem with interracial dating?

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razelove · Accepted Answer

Some people see culture as a marriage to their appearance. They also fail to see how their own culture has changed and eroded as it has been exposed to other ones. Take white or black culture in America. Both are completely arbitrary and made in America, also typically tied to regions and income more so than skin color. Regardless, parents or peers will take issue with a bi-racial couple regardless of the combination there seeing it as some sort of personal "betrayal".

What they never seem to take into account is that the relationship does not involve them. If you want kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids who look just like you, put money in a trust to produce just that. People aren't so predictable, especially not with who we fall in love with, and wind up mating with. Like, in my case I'm going to have another child down the line now. My wife and I have a pretty big, happy family.

I never saw myself falling in love with, or being married to an Asian woman, but here we are. I wouldn't change a single thing either, her and our little ones are perfect just the way they are.

Her parents had a big problem with me being white for a long time. Nothing I did to try to patch that up helped, so after a few years I just stopped trying. They accept her again, and our kids, so that's good enough for me. Even if they see me as some "corrupting" force. Some people will never get over that, and there is nothing you can do to change their minds.

That's their loss. There are years that they didn't get to see their daughter, and years their grandfather didn't see his granddaughter because of that. They aren't getting that time back, and our lives continued to move forwards.

Make the decisions you feel are right, no matter what they are, someone will always take offense to them. You can't let that be your problem though if you want to be happy.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

There's nothing inherently wrong with interracial dating or marriage.

The actual problems arise when/if there is a cultural rift between the two, which often can't be reconciled without one or both partners making concessions in regards to their values or life priorities. This can happen even when races are the same or aren't a factor. In my experience and observations, this happens most frequently with younger couples because even if they meet and start dating with similar values or goals, they tend to spread out and go other directions as they mature.

Now in regards to why it generally doesn't happen as often as dating within the same race, it's actually related even though it's sometimes a subconscious decision: people naturally gravitate towards people who they relate to, or think they can relate to. This is why even in a culturally diverse nation like the United States or the Roman Empire, semi-isolated ethnic communities or quarters develop even in the middle of major cities, even if it's not ordained by law.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

For me, its only a problem if i experience a problem while I myself am in that specific interracial relationship. On numerous accounts one of us has said something ignorant that we shouldve known is not something that should be said or asked when dating another race. Even though the guy and I would learn something new each time, there's still that one fck up with the next interracial relationship of where you should think before speaking. I’m personally just tired of the racially insensitive remarks, stereotyping, fetishizing, etc. So even though i still find some of every ethnicity attractive, i just prefer to date my own at this rate. Its easier than walking on eggshells all the time. For others, they may deal with negative comments that outsiders make about their relationship. That never bothered me when i was in one

Newhead · Accepted Answer

Personally I don't G. A. S about that aspect of their relationship. I have a problem with black men knocking up and many times breaking black women's spirit and then moving on to another race as if black women were never good enough to marry and settle down with. I am a black woman who has been proposed to by many black men, and probably two white men. But I can speak for what I see many black men do before they choose another race, why have babies with a black girl and waste her time? selfish and immature.

NikolaiIvanov · Answer

Loss of Individual identity and the dropping fertile rates. Black women not being able to marry and having the highest divorce rate totally destroying their self respect and confidence. Dating to be 'woke and against racism' basically making a social statement therefore seeing the partner not as a individual but a novelty or trophy. Biracial children are more susceptible to obtain diseases because of 1000s of years of racial history to prevent native diseases of the subcontinent (native Mayans started dying of smallpox when Europeans came, the bubonic plague came to Europe from India) basically each individual race has evolved into being optimal to reproduce withing their same race, interracial couples have higher divorce rates and biracial children face a lot of mental trauma and become insecure due to no strong identity. Here's the   They are more susceptible to behaviour risks which may lead them to being mentally challenged. They develop a lot of health problems as well because as I said each race evolved to be immune to different diseases.

Joey_007 · Answer

When it comes to me personally having relationships based solely on sex (i. e. friends with benefits, hook ups) it's fine but when it comes to dating and marriage, that's where I have a problem with it, not that I haven't felt drawn to having a relationship with someone outside of my race, I have. My problem with it is the idea of walking in public together and people staring, the chances of having a family gathering and someone starting a race related argument or fist fight out of nowhere, I know I have family members who'll start sh. t so why not just avoid it all together, they're okay people they just have some f. cked up ideas about race.

So when it comes to me personally, no but when it comes to other people it's absolutely more than fine and I wish them the best of luck.

Hannahm67 · Answer

I don't really have a problem with it. But I do have a problem with the blatant race fetishizing that has been growing in recent years. I have met so many people over the years that deep down are racists and get off on what they view as fucking below them. I also think that the hypocrisy with interracial kids is incredibly fucked up. for example, let's say you have two kids both with 1 black and 1 white parent, and one kid looks more black and one looks more white which happens. The more white one would get torn to shreds for using the N-word but the more black-looking kid would not.

also, I'm not sure what the future holds but I can see a race war happening in the future and I'm sure that interracial kids will be the first ones to go if it happens.

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

Maybe its better in other countries but where I live most foreigns will just marry you to be able to stay in the country then disposed of you like you are nothing. Maybe they can stay with you and have dating apps on the side. Believe it or not but many of them I found on Tinder and they are married, with babies. They obviously usually get married to someone who has self esteem issues who trusts them deeply so they can play with their hearts.

Another thing, in my country there is not so many foreigns so dating interracial partner would result in probably being called bad words and negativity, specially from older generations.

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Apart from that what would be a problem with interracial dating, well y'all have probably different habits, culture, possibly religions, beliefs... again if you love someone truly there should be no limits. You just have to be safe so you don’t get used just for a green card. ❤️

Gravit1 · Answer

I don't date anyone who believes in race. Ethnicity is real and so is culture, but I consider a woman first on Christian belief. I've been attracted to a variety of women, but most of my friends are of non European descent. I've worked closely with African American, Vietnamese American, and Korean American women. From college more European and Middle Eastern ancestries. 75% of my siblings married Latin American people, but personally don't know any. I mostly interact with Korean women now. If you see people as their ethnicity instead of as first people, the problem lies with you.

OfDeath · Answer

I don't want to come across as racist and I want to make it clear that I am open to these types of relationships. However, the obvious result is miscegenation and the scientific literature suggests, it is linked to a higher instance of rare birth defects such as anything from deformity to mental disability. Now, I know what you're thinking: isn't that what inbreeding does and miscegenation is the opposite of that? Yes and inbreeding is much more likely to cause problems than miscegenation, alas, the risk remains at both ends of the spectrum.

Siren777 · Answer

People - that's the problem. They can't mind their own business, nose too deep in others lives. The only way to overcome it is to not care what people think. That includes family, friends, colleagues or even random people. How do they have the power to have a say over how you live your life? Smh...🤦🏻‍♀️

123lucy · Answer

Obviously I had always grown up knowing that racism was a thing, but I remember my mind being completely blown when I found out that there are people who have a problem with "interracial" dating. The term itself is still weird to me because it's not something I had ever thought of as being a noteworthy thing about a relationship. Racism is actually mad.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

I don’t have any problems with people dating outside of their race.

I do find it hypocritical though when the left wingers shame someone for not being attracted to a particular race all while they themselves aren’t attracted to a particular race either.

Mangospacho · Answer

This would be an interesting survey question because not one female has said they’re against interracial relationships and about half of the males have problems with it. Not one female has given the reason that they fetishize another race while several of the males assume that women who are okay with interracial dating fetishize another race.

jasmine_0603 · Answer

There is absolutely no problem with it and only close minded people think otherwise. I could date a guy of any ethnicity. I don't really like using the word "race" though - we all belong to the human race 🤷

7771999 · Answer

It won't help with the social issues we constantly face. Because in general, people stay with their own. Although most have friends of different races.

And a lot of these relationships are based off of exotic lust and nothing more. Just toxic

Coulis · Answer

There isn't one. People in interracial relationships don't care whether people approve of it or not. Nor should that good and people who disapprove can stay mad.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

There is not one. people can date anyone they like that means sexuality, ethnicity, religion or beliefs, body type etc zero problems with any of it

Shizuoko · Answer

The only problem is inside people's minds aside from that there's absolutely no problem.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i don't understand it.  why are white women attracted to black men? and the majority of white men repulsed by black women? i'd really like to know

MCheetah · Answer

Nothing at all. ... Unless you're a legitimate racist.

Jjpayne · Answer

I don't see a problem with it. I think it's a beautiful thing

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I don't have an issue with interracial dating, I actually think it's nice when people from different cultures can make it work.

Dontaaa · Answer

I hear people talk about mixed babies have a higher chance of certain disabilities, I don't know if that's true or not. I don't really see a problem with it other than that.

Wiredone · Answer

I didn't know there was a problem with it. It doesn't matter what color the person's skin is. As long as two people have chemistry between them they should date. We all look the same on the inside and we all bleed red.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

There is none but some people’s families are racist. So that’s probably it.

Andres77 · Answer

Nothing wrong with it... if their motive is love for the individual that just happens to be different looking. But it makes me cringe a bit that an individual would only date on the basis of race.

Unbeatable · Answer

Its unnatural. No one is attracted to a different species, why should they be attracted to people genetically different enough to be a totally different race.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Lol why is interracial dating is between only two races when you say interracial 😂. What about other races or is interracial dating banned for them 🤣

hana12 · Answer

never had problems
i dont get it why should be a problem tbh
you are dating who you like
so maybe the obstacles are the parents?
I don't know old mindset? if so work hard to show them its no big deal

legalboxers · Answer

Nothing is wrong, the people who think its wrong and express their disdain about it and tell those who do engage in it "Oh the Bible says..."..

The Bible also states dont wear mixed fabrics but you do anyway...

Xoirwinkan · Answer

No problem, but in Hollywood movies it's PUSHED - specifically a black man and white woman, like they have an agenda. That I hate.

TheorionMage · Answer

The immediate mutual familial opinions which complicate YOUR commitment.

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

I don't see any problem with interracial dating except for the ignorant people who say that it cause birth defects without any actual scientific proof.☯️

bamesjond0069 · Answer

In general nothing but it shows poor character if you obsess over a race that isn't your own or if you like a race because of the attention or stereotypes involved.

888theGreat · Answer

No sweat off of me, but you Asian women like white guys. Admit it. If you had to marry a guy , which would you pick Black guy , Asian guy, or White Guy?

curator · Answer

Absolutely no problem. Love had no boundaries no colour specifications or differences love is just so pure. Malign and dirty are people and their thoughts. Actually love whoever you want to as long as it's keeping both sides happy and contented :)

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I think it just makes people uncomfortable. There isn't any actual issue

Dnice1 · Answer

I don't see any problem with it. It's just two people dating. Nothing wrong with that.

karaspara · Answer

There is no problem with it some people are just knobheads

worldscolide · Answer

Absolutely nothing wrong with it.. Those that have issues with it are closeted racists.

Ripper_E · Answer

I don't know. What is the problem with interracial dating?

DJB72 · Answer

The race is homo sapiens. Who cares how much melanin is in the skin?

WowwGirl · Answer

Nothing. Who is anyone to say who anyone else should love

genericname85 · Answer

There's no problem. But there's racists in this world.

WalkingBassist · Answer

I don't know I guess there are still a lot of people who haven't come to the realization that it is inevitable. Plus, I'm a white dude who prefers ladies of color.

sixtyeightplusone · Answer

because 99% of black male/white female marriages fail by year 11 and Johnny has no father and my taxes have to pay for your bad decisions. I have no distaste for white male/asain female relationships

ToastyOats · Answer

There's not enough cute white girls to go around, sorry fellas. We're not going to be able to share.

NYlatefun · Answer

Whatever negative biases you may have in your head. That’s it.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

absolutely nothing, just racists have a problem with it.

lycanthrope3 · Answer

narrow minded people that believe it is wrong, and think the whole world should agree. they cause problems where there were none

AmeerX · Answer

Well, mostly I found it difficult considering the long distance involved.

msc545 · Answer

The harassment you get from others, usually white people.

OddBeMe · Answer

We should keep all dna just between races. That’s what’s best for humanity right?

Dchrls78104 · Answer

It's a slap in the face of snowflakes that hold on to archaic "values" and prejudices.

Mark987 · Answer

NOTHING.. just ignorant people.. Hybrid children are the way of the future

princeofromance · Answer

Nothing, as long as they are in love with one another.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Maybe only different mentality, perspective of life and household. If those are the same for both of them, there is no problem at all!

Jessicaburn22 · Answer

Problem? There's no problem. What problem could there possibly be?

berserk945 · Answer

Nothing! Actually mixed race kids are more often healthierand smarter.

Nazgol · Answer

Nothing other than being heavily judged by society and maybe a few tradition problems

BlazingIce1 · Answer

There ain't one. But you could say that there is something called jealousy in some people.

Bakcula · Answer

Every one loves to see a nice white girl with 2 BLACK babies and not one single father around.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

To me it totally grosses me out But thats just my opinion

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