Guy Im dating never ask how I was and never calls me pretty? Is this red flag?

[Anonymous]

he's American. He always say you look good but not pretty. I told him I want to be called pretty because I want affection he said we have more important things to talk about. I asked him how I was but he never ask me how I was. He never say good morning either. he's way older than me too Im 28 and he is 65. He has a son 32 and Pinay girlfriend and Im Filipina too. He said his son used to date a plain jane Pinay his second look better. I asked whos prettier than me between his sons girlfriend he said "I love you but I can't choose" Im so irritated rn

[HollyK21]

It’s weird that he’s talking about his son’s girlfriends looks, also weird that you’re asking to be compared to her along with the ex. In any case, you can’t make a man do what you want, nor can you turn him into the guy you need/want him to be. He either is or he isn’t. You should only have to tell him one time what the issue is, then give him a chance to correct it. If he doesn’t do it (especially doesn’t want to do it) then leave him and go find someone who will. This man is pushing 70, he’s been this way for decades and isn’t changing on your behalf.

[HollyK21]

Nevermind. Read your response to the other guy and this is just fucking weird lol, he’s not your man! It’s not his job to make you feel pretty and good and it’s trifling for you to do all this shit while he’s married! My god @Abbycado please read her “confession” to the other guy. Her and the nearly 70 year old geezer are both trash bags.

[Abbycado]

Dear Lord, Holly. He has a wife? ffs

[HollyK21]

Yep! Here I was thinking this is a girlfriend disgruntled with her boyfriend or something, but THIS? How could she ever expect princess treatment and romance from a man who refers to his own wife as a boring bitch? This woman is not above it! So crazy when these heartless ass women think they’re going to get some sort of better treatment and great situation from a CHEATER.

[Anonymous]

Well you're dating him so... he must be doing something right.

Questions like this make me laugh. Because you don't see women coming out of the woodwork to tell men they're handsome. Yet guys are supposed to tell you women you're pretty. And then you're with this guy. So he must be doing something right. True?

[dudeinohio]

Definitely red flags. He should be more attentive to you and your needs.

[roy_ricky09]

Sweetheart you are the redflag here not him.

[Asker]

Really why?

[roy_ricky09]

First why are you with such an old guy?
Second you are demanding...

[Asker]

I am not demanding. I just want to hear it as sign of affection.

[roy_ricky09]

No... Answer the first question honestly

[Asker]

Okay I'll tell the truth. He has a wife and she doesn't f him so he's longing for affection so he texts me. He said he became a bitch and that his 2 sons dont even talk to her because she she's a bitch. I only know him from long distance. We are just best friends. He tell me his problems everyday. I was just bored. He said he acts like my girlfriend so I kinda text him back. We never send nudes but we send pics together. He always say I love you to me and that he already has feelings for me. I told him if he's so sad about his marriage he should divorce her which I don't know why didn't do. He will retire on Nov 2025. He said he wanted to be friends for life with me.

[roy_ricky09]

Again that's not the answer... I asked you why are you with him?
You shouldn't be involved with him who's of this age... But ofcourse there's a hidden reason.
And no, you have no rights to tell him to get divorced.
He clearly told you that he wants to stay as friends, but you want more... 🤣

[Asker]

Im not into him lol. I was just bored. I can date people my age range. Im not with him either. Im not into his money. Simple Im just bored. I dont want more either. I made up my mind.

[roy_ricky09]

Then you shouldn't expect anything from him... 🤣

[Asker]

Well I told him I cannot continue mu friendship with him and he got mad and told me I should make up my mind

[roy_ricky09]

You are contradicting yourself... Just simply do the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just shy.