I swear every time you give off safe vibes to women, they pull back?

[Anonymous]

The literal, very SECOND that you seem like a good, safe bet for them, they ghost you.

I’m sorry ladies, all the women I talk to. I’m sorry that this is just how I am, that I can have a substantial conversation, I can speak with confidence, and very eloquently, with an above 5th grade vocabulary (unlike most people).

I don't know if that bores them or what, but it really doesn’t seem like a “me” problem at this point! 🤣

[Summeroflove]

I’m not sure dude….. not everyone is right for you dating is trail and error. Maybe there is something else going on that others have pointed out… Yes a percentage of women love instability and drama. Let them get what they deserve…. They just aren’t worth it anyways.

Two, the women ghosting you are cowards. Let them go…. They don’t seem like women worth your time. People who ghost other people are simply cowards…. And if that offends some of you people maybe figure out why it triggers you… While they don’t legally have to respond to you. It shows more who they are then you…. Unless they asked you to leave them alone and you don’t.

Moving on… where are you picking these women? If you’re picking women in areas such as dating apps, bars, clubs, etc (not to say all in those places are bad) well. They’re probably women getting male attention to feed their ego. They have so many men feeding them attention they just don’t have the time to respond to everyone. Lots of men do this too…. And it’s a lot of narcissists.

But. What can repulse good decent women. Is if you’re showing you have a issue with women in general. Now that will take a good woman and make her not want to be around you.

[Anonymous]

It IS a "THEM" problem. You're not talking to quality women my man. Quality women do NOT behave this way. Or you mischaracterizing how "safe" your vibes are.

Unfortunately misunderstandings DO happen in dating. If you ARE talking to quality women then this will not happen ALL of the time. Communication IS important on both sides. And it's hard when one or both sides are unwilling to show vulnerability. This will ALWAYS be a problem with dating. But is something that continues to get worse as both genders get more and more tribal.

[Nikki1989]

You are probably trying too hard to be the safe emotional pillow when you should start being the engaging romantic option. There is a big difference between the two.

[beenherebefore]

I don't think that's the issue. Women love a smart guy. There's something else that you're not being able to pin point.

[slatyb]

If you are turning off every woman you meet, it's definitely a you problem. You are not giving off "safe" vibes, you are virtue-signaling, which gives off a "creep" vibe and a "superior" vibe.

Not considering this a "you" problem -- blaming your lack of success on others -- is itself a problem. Get professional help if you want to attract a partner.