Should I stop overthinking?

[Anonymous]

I am talking with a guy from England, we live far away from each other. We have talked for many months and we have also talked about meeting. He has mentioned a girl best friend before (that he very rarely meets) and I am totally ok with that of course. Two weekends a row he hung out with her, at a market or so. I am secure in myself but I am just scared of beeing naive. In my experience all the guy friends I have had have wanted something more than just friends. Should I stop overthinking?

[SueShe]

There are 3 major issues here that you have to consider and I believe you have all the necessary ingredients that give you good reasons to overthink that situation.

1. The long distance relationship: Those seldom work because of that distance that prevents you from meeting on a face-to-face basis.

2. His age. If he is in the same age group as you are and if that age group is indeed 18-24, then you know very well that men think with their genitalia first and he is no exception.

3. That "platonic" best friend. If they meet 2 weekends in a row, that is no longer a person he "very rarely meets" and more someone that he uses as substitute.

No, you are not overthinking but putting one and one together.

[Nikki1989]

Since you haven't met in person yet, the “foundation” of your relationship is still being built. The best thing you can do is stay in your “secure” lane but keep your eyes open. LDRs rarely work out, so don't get your hopes up.

[Staximus]

Doesn't matter you're putting too much mustard on the hot dog. He's not your boyfriend, he's just some guy you talk to on the phone or online who is far away. Stop wasting your time and go find a guy nearby who you can see whenever you want.

[In_Trance]

You should stop this nonsense and meet someone in real life that lives local