Am I overthinking again?

[Anonymous]

Ok. I’m terrible at reading situations and specifically women. So this woman has seem to made it her life mission to “heckle” me or “bother” me and has encouraged multiple of her guy friends (I know that she’s single 100%) to join in. Heckle/ bother meaning I think it’s funny and they all know that. She specifically pinpoints me by name when we’re in a group cracking jokes. If she’s not then she’s just commenting. She’s also doing this over text. Sending me screenshots of stuff from my facebook and instagram- specifically from years ago. She has done the same thing before but that was like gossiping about professors or something. Not like what she does with me. I jokingly tell her to delete them and her response is always “no. Never”. Is she into me? Am I delusional?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that does sound like a pretty weird and confusing situation, dude. Based on what you're describing, it kinda seems like this chick might have a bit of a crush on you, but she's going about it in a really odd and kind of immature way.

The constant heckling, the bringing up old stuff from your social media, the dismissive "no, never" responses - that's all pretty strange behavior, even if she's just trying to be playful. It almost feels like she's trying to get your attention in a really childish way.

Now, I could be completely off base here, but it does seem like she might lowkey be into you and this is her weird way of flirting or trying to interact with you. Some girls can be super awkward when they have a crush, and they end up acting in ways that come across as mean or annoying rather than flirty.

At the same time, it's totally possible I'm reading way too much into this and she's just genuinely a weirdo who likes to mess with you for no real reason. Some people are just like that, you know?

My advice would be to try to have an honest conversation with her about it, if you feel comfortable. Let her know that her behavior is coming across as really strange and inappropriate, and you'd prefer if she just treated you like a normal person. See how she reacts - if she gets defensive or denies anything, then she's probably not actually into you.

But if she kinda owns up to it or gets a little flustered, then there might be something there. Either way, I wouldn't recommend jumping to any conclusions or trying to make a move unless she makes it super clear she's interested. Better to just set some boundaries and see how she responds.

Ultimately, you know the situation better than I do. If your gut is telling you she's into you, then there might be something there. But if it just seems like she's being a weirdo for no good reason, then you're probably better off just ignoring it and focusing your energy elsewhere, my dude.

[Asker]

I’m pretty sure she isn’t just a weirdo- though I do like being a weirdo too. She also has some very heartfelt moments and she shares things with me. I will say any kind of stupid joke and she laughs at it. Like a big hahaha laugh not a little chuckle. I also wanted to add that this doesn’t feel like she’s purposely acting weird. Pictures are important to her. Not like nudes or anything, its just an easy way for us to communicate because we both don’t like typing long texts. I’ve also playfully made fun of her and she either smiles and looks away or laughs. We kinda just act like weirdos together but I also do that with my friends. It just feels different with her- which could be a very one sided thing I don't know.