Am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I met my boyfriend when I was 19 and he was 20 and before we became official he slept with someone else. However we then decided to move on and become official, but he did Snapchat a girl who he met on a course but I did ask her and she said it wasn’t ever inappropriate or anything they had a general conversations etc. but he was on a night out and one of his friends kissed him on the lips and he said he walked away straight afterwards but he said he was dancing with her because they was friends etc and I spoke to his friend and she apologised and said it was nothing like that at all and that she was sorry. However this was like all before 6 months in and I’ve now been with him almost 5.5 years. But I keep worrying was all of this cheating? Or am I overthinking. Can I even over think this? His never given me a reason to doubt him other than these few bumps in the road?

[tremendousfern]

The fact that all of this took place 5 years ago leads me to believe that you're overthinking it, especially if he's done nothing to make you suspicious recently. If these things had happened just recently that would be different.

That you've been fixating on these events for the last 5 years is a problem though. You gotta let that stuff go because it's going to eat you up inside otherwise and probably all ready has.

[Asker]

Yeah I think you’re right. I think I’ve just gone down the spiral of all of the what ifs

[Anonymous]

Overthinking.

Both of them said it was nothing sexual.

Why you were not together with him?

[Asker]

Well the one on Snapchat he was away on a. Course. And the friend one I wasn’t out that evening

[Flatmanlewis]

Overthinking. Definitely.

[ankushjangra]

definitely overthinking,

[laly520]

yes overthinking

[noohair]

Sexual Intercourse?

[Asker]

Sorry?