Am I overthinking or does it seem I sound desperate and he’s a little conceited?

[anonbrunette99]

Context.: we went on a date it was awkward he said at the movies he wanted to make a move but he didn’t think I was feeling the company I kind of brushed it off I didn’t know what to say I said I liked the company but kinda with no expression or kind of reassurance. The guy is like tall muscular really attractive, he’s 31, but doesn’t work etc and hasn’t in a long time he has bad depression! he said to me at the movies he he doesn’t get awkward but he notices it on other people and how he senses like a thing about me

So I was honest whilst we walked to the train station and felt I had to explain after the movies I admitted I have autism and that’s why I’m quite awkward. He messaged me after to see if I got home ok etc, said it was lovely meeting me I messaged again but conversation quickly died. So I texted him again and..

Does it seem he’s cocky from how he says “the main reason i brought it up was to check if i was imagining things?” Like maybe some people just wouldn’t want to be touchy feely at the movies

[spartan55]

I don't see him being full of himself at all. Because he said he wanted to be sure he wasn't imagining things? I don't get why you would think that. But I don't see him coming off that way.
You aren't desperate by telling him how you feel (which you did)

[RealMarek]

I don’t think he’s being cocky. Try not to overthink this. If he is unable to hold down a job and struggles with depression, it is probably best for him to sort himself out before getting into a relationship, and best for you to just be friends with him.

[anonbrunette99]

that is true, I mean do you think my response to his turning me down was appropriate?

[RealMarek]

Yes, you responded nicely.

[Crafteroon]

You're overthinking. You politely talked about the matter, so going back now would be the desperate part.

It seems you were both a bit awkward there, if there was a strong connection I'm sure something would have happened back then or during your messaging. It didn't, so move on.

[SenileOldMan]

I don't find any conceit there. He seems very kind to me although I'm only going by what he wrote. Maybe he just felt like what he wanted and what you wanted and the vibes weren't clicking so much.

[anonbrunette99]

Was the last message I sent OK? I feel like it came across as ohh boo hoo my ego is hurt he rejected me y’know?

[SenileOldMan]

I think you two have maintained an open dialogue so you can probably keep talking and understand each other better. Try not to jump to conclusions!

[yucel_eden]

Your overthinking it


Also you seem quite self conscious, don’t be it’s a turn off

[anonbrunette99]

What makes me seem self conscious?

[yucel_eden]

It’s obvious tbh

[anonbrunette99]

Because of how I responded to his text?

[yucel_eden]

All your questions, your way of thinking, your assumptions, it all points to that. Your overthinking

[Anonymous]

No he’s being really nice about it.