Am I overthinking?

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Long story short….
we had to buy an Rx for something, I asked him to help split the cost since it was expensive. He agreed. I thought about it and felt guilty for asking and told him to not worry about it, I’ll take care of it. He was like ok cool, I’ll send it when I can.

few days go buy, we got into an argument and he ended up leaving my house abruptly. I was done at this point, ready to move on, and just let that situation be. I told him to leave me alone and block my number. He did, well I get a notification mid week (after we hadn’t talked for a few days) and he sent me the money and unblocked my number and then admitted to me he unblocked my number to Zelle me the money and then admitted that he did it in hopes I would respond to the money he sent me even though I asked him not to.
Someone told me he’s just using me for sex…but logically if things end between you and a person, and they asked you to not worry about sending them money and to leave them alone it you would send them the money and reblock their number…or just not even send them the money and move on entirely.

call my crazy but that’s a little excessive for someone who just wants “sex”. Regardless if you want to continue with that person or not usually you wipe your hands clean of the situation and leave them alone when you ask them to.. and move on also…
(we haven’t had sex since then just an FYI)

I don’t know what to think anymore at this point 🤦‍♀️

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Sis this whole thing is giving me mixed vibes from this dude. On one hand, unblocking you just to send money after you said to leave you alone is sus. Like is he just tryna draw you back in?

But at the same time, if you guys were into each other at some point, I could see why he'd still wanna square up that debt you know? Clearing the air fully before truly moving on.

Actions do usually say more than words with guys. And his action of actually sending the cash, even if it was a bait, shows maybe he's not fully over it deep down.

My advice - stop over analyzing girl! You already told him to kick rocks so don't get pulled back in. Ball's in his court now if he really wants another chance. In the meantime, don't give him no more headspace.

Focus on you and having fun! If he steps up right down the line, cool. But for now, keep it pushin sis💅🏽 Some dudes just don't know how to let go fully. You good either way though, feel me?

236color · Accepted Answer

I think he feels it's a matter of him keeping his word. The two of agreed he would send you money and he is determined to keep that commitment. He probably doesn't want to leave this undone so you can hold it against him. This doesn't seem like a healthy relationship and if I were him, I would block you again and move on, the two of you aren't good together.

spartan55 · Answer

Yes, you are.

In_Trance · Answer

Yes you are

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