What sort of guys & gals do you find intimidating? What's your reaction to them?

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Hi Guys and Gals, What sort of guys & gals do you find intimidating?  Is it gender-specific for you? What's your reaction to them?

Gobbyjobby52 · Accepted Answer

It depends on my mental state as im schizophrenic.

Overall though

For women it'd be the controlling mother hen type, they can be 70 or just 30, I've gotten better with boundaries so I attract this one a lot less.

The reactive one that tries to shut me down before i say a word, again on higher doses these women repeat this dynamic a lot more and i feel on edge all the time.

Or women who are immature and laugh at me or deliberately mock me Infront of their friends. Before meds and boundaries these ones showed up and it started at 13 and I've stopped encountering this dynamic, they could be several years younger or around my age.

For men

It's got to be the serious, no nonsense low-key depressed insecure (sometimes) type that try to ground my happiness in seriousness and shut down any spark.

On lower doses i attract heavy masculine dynamics with other masculine men like my dad when i show my real self where i get dismissed, talked down to harshly, commanded.

The younger and same age peers who mock me (this one happens a lot at higher doses of meds where they can sense im not fully in my male embodiment, this type sting most because its not even attention from women in an negative way but feels like exclusion from my own gender.

Again for men once i established my inner boundaries and spoke and intervened cautiously they stop.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Dudes that are intimidating are big dudes that look like they could knock me out with one punch. Pretty sure I can outrun them, but in small enclosed spaces, I'm wary lol.

As for women, the only ones that really intimidate me are highly successful ones in their careers and ONLY in dating. The reason for that they tend to only date up in terms of career and success. Let me be clear that it's not always, but it seems to be a pretty accurate pattern.

RandomGirl42 · Accepted Answer

Loud, angry, yelling people, male or female, intimidate me and I usually withdraw either physically if I can or emotionally I just detach and kind of shut down. I don't mean to, it's just a "fight or flight" reaction and I'm not a fighter. 😳

Angelbabylips · Accepted Answer

With guys, the cute ones. With girls, the very rich ones.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well there is intimidating in a good way…. And a bad way.

Bad intimidating? Honestly…. Someone who acts too sweet … Or too seductive. If I can tell it’s fake there is usually another motive behind it. Yes some women are genuinely kind and sweet, but the ones that play the role too much are the ones you have to watch for.

Good way? Eh. That’s more personal lol

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I litigated court cases for many years and had to “get over” the intimidation factor. Not too many people intimidate me in my day-to-day life.

spartan55 · Answer

The only time I get intimidated is by highly trained military special forces operators. I had a girlfriend in college, and her older brother was in one of those units. He didn't talk about it much, but the dude was flat out scary. He liked me though, so that was a relief!

Staximus · Answer

Back in the late 90's (1997 I think) I went to see my friend's band play at the Whiskey in Hollywood. There were 2 bouncers who were about 7 feet tall and least 450 -500 pounds each. They were literally almost as big as Andre the Giant, had wrists as big as my ankles and my ankles are not small. I was 5'7" 200 lb and not fat. Young, dumb, really strong, and would fight pretty much anybody back then. I took one look at these guys and thought "fuck no, I'm not fighting these guys"

Spencer10 · Answer

I thought about this for a bit... I really do not find too many people intimidating. Maybe people who are very accomplished somewhat. Gender does not matter.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Nowadays absolutely nobody  Im old enough to see people for what they truly are  Frail and confused  It’s true for all of us no matter how much we pretend otherwise

worldscolide · Answer

Not many. Though my wife is one of them. And I ended up marrying her.

live2dance25 · Answer

With guys, the cocky ones with an attitude. With girls, the always nice ones in public but could kick your ass at home.

Iron_Man · Answer

I find nobody intimidating. I just don’t like to date girls with tattoos like biker chicks rough girls that have been around the block one time too many that swear and drink and have a dirty mind you can’t trust them and I don’t like their character

Ironco · Answer

I've always been the one doing the intimidating by my looks and actions.  Always been that way, I don't find too many people who intimidate me.  I get a long with most anyone.

exitseven · Answer

People that are either a lot bigger than me or somebody with a gun.

NerdGuy89 · Answer

I find women intimidating, from the sheer fact if they don’t like you, its easy for them to ruin your life with false accusation. Its something thats happened to me and women do it out boredom.

Arcadian222 · Answer

All those with whom I have opened up and they start showing signs of being not so trustworthy.

Anonymous · Answer

Most hot girls are kind of intimidating for me.

Yannae · Answer

Only the ones who have a weapon drawn on me.

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