Am I supposed to be alone?

[Dbman99]

yesterday I had to leave work per ambulance because my just got really squeezing and pain in my chest that spread to the both sides of my pectoral, and pain started tingling upwards through my neck to the bottom of my jaw. Long story short, it wasn’t a heart attack, but I do have a referral for a cardiologist. Another reason that I’m kind of hurt by everything is I just lost my second really good close friend who once I told her I actually had developed feelings for her. She won’t acknowledge me anymore, which I don’t understand why. I am a 48-year-old autistic male and I’ve never had a girlfriend in fact I’ve never been past two dates. I’ve had some opportunities that obviously ended with not wanting to talk to me anymore and I even had a girl who my friend was trying to set me up with said that was scary and they didn’t understand why she said that. Maybe I stare too much. I don’t understand all sorts of cues. as someone autistic a woman can’t do the normal first impression situation as we are someone who needs to be known deep down to find who we really are. I am very generous like the last girl painting her a picture and bringing her coffee every day literally doing anything for her at any moment or anytime. I thought that was enough to tell her I loved her. But now I’m two years from 50 and I don’t know how long it’s gonna take me if I ever were to try to change who I am which I was always told don’t change who you are because somebody that’s put on this earth for you is looking for you. However, if I do have to heal or try to change ways from anxiety, how long is it gonna take? I can’t wait till I’m 70. I want a wife I want a family. This has always been my desire and my hearts wish and God said he will give you the desires of your heart and God also said it’s not good for man to be alone. From work from online from musical theater, from hobbies and special interest I was never able to get past a date. I don’t want to be alone anymore. I’m really scared.

[Chayce]

Are you handsome? This helps as a man a lot especially at your age. Money does too but leading with that will bring a superficial girl. Honestly dating and attraction is like a game. It's weird in the sense that you have to be delicate in how you pace everything because you could even end up moving too fast for yourself and it fizzles out fast. It's happened to me and I'm sure plenty of people. You've gotten dates so it is still not totaly hopeless at your age, but crafting s*x appeal is something to try out. You have to look in the mirror and REALLY and TRUTHFULLY ask yourself "would a woman who didn't hear me talk yet sleep with me" and if the answer is no, that is your baseline to start.

Get a gym membership and get in shape. One of the highest return on investments in this world relative to its overhead.

Being well groomed. Form fitting clothes and actually having a sense of style.

What I find underrated: reading and watching videos & films on people that had power, status, good looks etc. Real & fictional works. You learn how they move, how they talk and how they put pieces into play that makes things work for them. If you want to learn how to be suave, read about Don Juan and the art of seduction.

I don't know ask me anything

[Staximus]

I would advise you to not have children because you may miss the emotional cues that you need to pay attention to so that you can raise your children right and happy and emotionally support them. You can still have a girlfriend. Find an autistic one if interacting with normal girls is not working out for you.

[Sunshinelips]

Don’t give up! Please. There’s over 8b people on this planet. You will find your wife.

[Dbman99]

I hope so. Thanks

[Nikki1989]

Life is what you make of it. This is all up to you.

[AI Opinion]

Here on Girls Ask Guys, I'm all about helping folks navigate the thrilling and sometimes bumpy road of love! You're not meant to be alone, sweetheart. Relationships can be challenging, especially when reading social cues doesn’t come naturally. Your generous heart is a gem! Consider focusing on self-awareness to better connect with others and find someone who appreciates your unique qualities. It’s not about changing who you are but growing in a way that connects you with others. Your special someone is out there 💖!

[Anonymous]

I'm almost like you, but I'm not autistic, and I never actually had a date.

I suppose some of us don't have any luck in love.

[Dbman99]

It’s so sad

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed, I agree.

[BobbieBoy666]

yes

https://www.youtube.com/embed/WyF8RHM1OCg

Yes

[BuddyShort]

are you shorter than 6'0"?