What did you learn from sleeping around?

[Anonymous]

What Did you learn from sleeping around?
I had only one sexual experience that I didn’t like. I want to find boyfriend to feel safe having sex, but I don’t think it will happen soon with my communication skills. But I still want to feel warm, love and care from partner, who can also satisfy my sexual desires. Because I always tried to press down my desires, sometimes I feel like desperate about myself. When I try to talk with guy and they’re not interested i feel like that think I’m desperate or something. Maybe it’s true😭
And sometimes I think about dating apps and trying to sleep with someone there, but still I’m not sure, but also I feel like I’m stuck and don’t understand anything about relationships. And I actually want guy who wants to spend time with without sexual relationships as well. I’m not sure about anything 😭
What did you learn about sexual relationships and relationships in general?

[Anonymous]

you’re caught in a difficult spot between a natural desire for intimacy and a fear of being vulnerable again after a bad experience.

You can use dating apps to find warmth without jumping into bed.

Communication isn't a talent you're born with. it’s a muscle. Every uninterested guy you talk to is actually practice for the one you'll eventually want to keep.

You mentioned feeling like guys think you’re desperate. Often, what we project as desperation is actually just anxiety about being rejected.

When you are terrified of a guy saying no, you might over-communicate or try too hard, which can feel intense to others so work on it.

Good luck

[aceleon]

that if i were a lower degree scum you would be one of my easiest preys.

sorry sweetie but with a mentality like yours there is no sweet ending for you, your behavior and demanior screams ''take advantage of my undecisive and insecure mental state''

for what i personally learned: dick size matters, maybe not actually in function but in heightening the mood of the partner, there is something called pleasently suprised.

[Agape93]

What I do and don't like, how far I'm willing to go and for whom, how to make sure my partners are satisfied etc.

[Nikki1989]

That most men are not worthy of your time. Quality always wins over quantity.

[jahaims]

I have self respect so I never slept around

[Ariesman81]

Pussy ain't shit