Is it weird to think sleeping around is wrong?

[Anonymous]

I think having sex with random people is wrong.
Say.. you’re having a one night stand and you leave. How are you supposed to know if that person is healthy? How are you supposed to know if that person is with someone else?
I mean it’s nasty if you think about it.
I’m waiting until I’m married to have sex ( doesn’t mean I dislike people who don’t.) Mainly because I am traditional in that way. I want that time to be special. I don’t want it to be something you get rid of quickly.
I want it to be with someone I love and trust with everything. I want it to be my husband. I think it’s very honorable to wait till marriage. It shows you care about your body. And you want to share the experience with someone you’re spending the rest of your life with.
Why don’t some people respect their body nowadays? They sleep around like so much.

[btbc92]

No, it's not. What your saying is right. Don't allow your insecurities stop you from doing right, You want the best sex life and want to share that with your husband. That is better than what a lot of people are doing. And don't you dare allow other people to convince you otherwise. I have friends who learned it the hard way when they didn't wait. A lot of people are destroying their lives and the lives of their future children because of it. Premarital sex is called selfish sex for a reason. The reason for marriage is to have sex, not just a place to share your love and have a stable environment for children to be born into. God intended sex to be between a married couple anyway. But my suggestion to you is to watch some of Mark Gungor's material about that.

[Asker]

Best comment! 🧡

[zxcded]

Agreed!

[Annoracken]

No it is really healty of you to think like you do. Today it is normal to cheat and sleep around. I think it is just bad moral. Yes maybe some like it. But then they have not really been in love and had sex. I have not sleept with many because i want to know the person first and if i don't have any feelings i will do nothing. For me guys have to satisfy my brain first to get anywhere.

[MimoFino]

I know basic math, do am i satisfying your brain?

[Anonymous]

Like I have always said, the more guys you sleep with, the less attractive you are to the next guy. That is just the way it is.

I admire you for wanting to wait. I will most probably not get married, but I want to stay in my first real relationship for as long as possible.

[Asker]

Yea.. Everyone seems to think I’m stupid though. I always get seen as extreme or just too young to realize. I’m not a baby. I see what’s going on in the world.. I want to give good advice to people who are young. My mom has done the same for me. She did lots of things when she was young.. that to this day she regrets. She had sex with someone at 14 and got pregnant. She then.. got beaten up by that guy. She lost the baby too.. I just think it’s not wise to sleep around. You’re giving away something special and also the more people you sleep with... the more at risk you are.. I hope I didn’t seem like a you know what..

[Opinion Owner]

You are very wise and think in a mature way. Sex is so cheap these days as so many girls succumb to ONS's and casual sex. It is a refreshing change to find someone that wants it to be special and is willing to wait.

[Asker]

Thanks. I agree.

[ShortCircuit]

It's not abnormal to refrain from casual sex yourself, but it's a bit judgmental to claim that it's "wrong".

Personally, I wouldn't have casual sex myself, and I'd rather not associate with anyone who does; however, I think they should have the right to do as they wish.

Ya know what I mean?

[Asker]

Like I said up there.. I am not saying I dislike people who do. It’s more thinking about how wrong it is. I am judging only because it’s putting yourself in harms way and risking your health. You could get diseases or you could sleep with the wrong person. Like say.. you go to a club and have a one night stand. Then that person tries to assault you or etc. I mean it happens everyday... Doesn’t that worry some people? I’m sorry if I sounded like a jerk. I’m really not.. I just got upset because I am always seen as stupid. I’m seen as stupid because I choose to wait.
It’s not fair. And how I say the truth and people get all upset. I’m sick of not speaking my mind ya know? It may be judgy... But I’m not doing it in a harmful way. I care about everyone and when I see my friends.. They sleep around and get hurt. When people are older (I know older people) they get hurt because of it. It’s wrong because it almost always results in someone getting hurt emotionally or physically.

[ShortCircuit]

I can't say I particularly disagree with you, but it's still an unpopular opinion. You'll just have to get used to that.

[Alistayr]

You have what is called, morals. Many people don't. Good for you.

[Red88xxx]

Yeah I think it's wrong to keep doing that too. But just hope when you two get married that your happy sexually because theirs been couples who've waited to have sex and think their bad at it and one of them or both of them want to get divorced and you definitely want your first marriage to be your one and only.

[zzzondarrr]

WTF, when did that become weird? 😂
Isn't it actually weird to think that it's not wrong?

You have really great and mature attitudes on relationships and love, if you remain true to them, I'm sure you'll have a very bright future ahead of you ^^

[Asker]

Thank you.

[zzzondarrr]

You're welcome, I'm glad there are still people like you, even in the US :D

[Asker]

❤️❤️

[pepwave21]

Yesterday I was talking to guy on here and he likes doing different girls and really does not want a girlfriend now. So if it is ok with the person I dont care. There are lots of girls who like player guys so there is a good fit.

[CountessSarah]

It's fine for you to have your own feelings towards relationships and sex. Fine, whatever, do what you want. (Even if abstinence doesn't work to create lasting marriages any more than any other relationship attitude.)

As for people who sleep around having a 'lack of respect for their body'.
No. Not everyone values long term relationships to the same extent you do, if at all. There's no loss of value of a body through sex, this is purely a construct in your own mind.

[Asker]

What I meant was.. When you sleep around with random people... You’re not respecting yourself. You could get diseases and lose value of the meaning of sex. It’s supposed to be special and meaningful. Not just a hook up.
I understand that I have my own values and stuff. But nowadays I’m seen as being ridiculous. When it doesn’t make sense that I am and people who sleep around constantly aren’t. Sorry if I stated something rudely or it seemed like I was shaming people. I was simply stating truth and being as kind and open as possible. That’s what this site is for right?

[MimoFino]

Not value of body only, but mayby What is inside too? I mean soul probably?

[Asker]

Exactly..

[AynonOMouse]

Sleeping around (ONS, hook ups) is morally wrong. I agree.

[Halucinator]

Nope it's completely fine
I'm waiting for marriage too. And don't think I'll lose it beforehand.

[MimoFino]

"I want it to be my husband".
Not so fast darling. Lets just getting to know each other. Whats your name?
But for your beliefs, i already eary like you))

[MimoFino]

Oh girl "like" not "eary"

[Miristheiss]

You are free to have any sexual code you like. Nothing wrong with it.

[BuenoLeche]

Sex is completely natural. If you want to hold out until marriage, then that's fine too. Sleeping around isn't morally wrong though. You're not hurting anyone.

[Mcluven]

Life is to short to worry about these things. If both the guy and girl knows its just a hookup then let them be

[krishh0805]

It's not weird!!! I respect your thoughts!!!

[Leahleah4444]

agree

[toolazyforausername]

I 100% agree with u.

[karandhingra]

old and illogical thinking as per me

[MimoFino]

Alert slut)

[nbbn5]

It is fine

[GayHowellMeme]

It's not weird

[Raul012]

How can we chat on here I am new to this app

[HamAndCheese]

Not really, no.