Is it healthy that I can’t sleep without my boyfriend on FaceTime?

Question

more often lately, I haven’t been able to sleep without my boyfriend on FaceTime. I haven’t told him and I try not to make a big deal out of it especially because I don’t wanna be too clingy, but it is something I’m worried about like as soon as the phone accidentally hangs up, I can’t sleep. sometimes when it hangs up I get all sad because I miss him, which makes the insomnia worse and it’s weird because like I’ve never felt like this towards anybody like I didn’t think the sound of somebody snoring would bring me so much comfort. he sees no problem with it and gets kinda sad too, but the main issue is I don’t want to be like too dependent on him or too clingy for my sake like is this healthy? I don’t know if this is healthy?😭 (also side story, it’s weird sometimes when it hangs up I’m asleep and I’ll wake up like 10 to 40minutes after it hangs up like how did my body know that it hung up? crazy right)

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

Awww that was cute

But what's healthy and what's not, well, to answer that, for myself or others, I'm trying to look at what health truly is instead of looking at how it sounds in a vacuum, instead of how it sounds according to whatever stereotypical image we have in mind about what's healthy or not.

So, if something we're doing constitutes some kind of obstacle preventing us to perform normally psychologically and socially, then I'm going to think it's unhealthy. Intuitively.

Following this logic though, then being in love can very much feel like we're not operating normally, so is it healthy to feel in love at all?

"Clingy" is a misleading buzzword used as some sort of scarecrow, coined by whatever relationship guru is trending. Due to how people experience love in a singular way, it is counterproductive to identify to anyone's speech, reasonable or not, hoping they have an answer about what is a much too personal topic.

So basically I'm saying that the job is yours to determine what is normal and what is damageable, you have the tools to answer that and if you don't, you'll find them anyway.

LC75LC71 · Accepted Answer

It's cute. I had a LDR in 2011 and we would fall asleep mostly together via laptop.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

Cute, and maybe healthy for the long distance relationship. But independence wise, I don't think it's good. What if something happens to him that makes him unable to face time, then you're in trouble.