Why do some people avoid dating someone with anxiety instead of being patient?

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

people handle emotion differenly , especially in dating. I'm wondering why anxiety makes some people step back instead of being patient

[aaron13547]

Fear and love are opposites like hot and cold. Anxiety has a frequency much closer to fear then to love. Normal people see Anxiety and are afraid of it. No one can unconditionally love someone else when they are afraid of losing them. Thats Anxiety.

To have love on the outside is to have love on the inside. In my opinion Anxiety has a purpose, it is focus. You use your Anxiety to focus on making the world one you want to live in. Love can't be forced though, it just happens. Chasing it is causing more anxiety and making it harder to catch.

Just let go and be yourself. Learn to love yourself and your flaws, embrace yourself! its going to be a bumpy road but you'll attract the "right" people in time.

Dont worry so much; we are human-beings, not "human-doings" 😉

[aaron13547]

Thank you for the mho

[msc545]

The problem with being around somebody who is very anxious is that it creates Anxiety in you which is terribly uncomfortable. Nobody wants to be around an anxious person because it makes them feel anxious.

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

Anxiety comes from past experiences, not choice. If someone can't handle that, it says more about their emotional tolerance than the person who's anxious."

[bobalife]

Personally I already have a lot of anxiety & empath…. and it will trigger mines lol. So I can’t… I will just feel very overwhelmed esp if they have poor boundaries and emotional regulation


I would need someone who’s patient, grounded, emotional intelligence/supportive, and strong will lol which is what most people with anxiety needs

[jeremy_09]

People aren't looking to add difficulty to their lives when dating, and they aren't going to go out of their way to do that. If someone has anxiety or some other issue that makes them less appealing to others, they should work to change that, not the person they're looking for.

[slatyb]

Because it blocks shared activities. Anxiety can be overcome with professional help. My partner is an anxious traveler and it's tedious.

[bubblydoubles]

They expect perfection, not willing to give but to take more than give (selfish), they don’t choose to love that person, they’re afraid of judgement of others (they ain’t the one at this point)