Would you date someone who suffers from social anxiety?

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aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I have in the past. As long as they could function in society and they didn't use it as a crutch (unfortunately something I've witnessed, along with people treating it as if it's something completely out of their control, which is very rarely the case), it would probably be fine. Most people have dealt with it to some extent at some point.

The thing I wouldn't accept, however, which is what my ex did a lot, is isolation and the refusal to make any attempt to socialize outside of talking to random strangers from behind a screen. He expected me to be fine with us never being around anyone else and our fun either being me watching him play video games or going to a store and aimlessly walking around. Same thing every single time, and absolutely no life or interaction outside of that, pretty much. I'm not going to live my life completely isolated because someone refuses to try to get past their social anxiety (this coming from someone who used to be unable to hold eye contact or hold a conversation because I was so nervous; I know it's unpopular of me to say, but unless someone actually has an anxiety disorder, most people have much more control over that than they're willing to admit, but they refuse to leave their comfort zone or attempt to grow, instead they try to avoid or ignore the issue and hope it will go away, but it never does).

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Yeah not a problem :)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would but it would be harder for me to choose them cause there is a higher price to pay if I get involved

Account · Answer

Yes. I would understand them and they would understand me too.

Desconhecida · Answer

Someone like this wouldn't be dating for starters

Kaneki05 · Answer

I would. But it depends how much she is. Not gonna bs, i would find it annoying if it was really bad. And well it just wouldn't work out, not to mention i have my own mental health problems. But that been said i am antisocial anyway.. So not like i would ever even pressure her to go out for any reason. The only time i ever really go out is too a band live. Which if she didn't want to go that's perfectly okay. But i would still go just there would be no pressure for her to do so.

It's just someone on the extrem end of it i guess, who would get socially anxious just cause i am going out or something like that. So maybe 98-99% of the time i would.

Anonymous · Answer

I personally wouldn't. I really appreciate men that are comfortable with themselves, that can act goofy or weird in a public setting without caring about what anybody thinks. Even if they are getting a few eyebrow raises. Someone with social anxiety obviously wouldn't be like this.

One of my friends also deals with social anxiety. I don't mind it as a friend, but it's just not something I would want in a partner.

torgor67 · Answer

Yeah as out of all the aspects which are physical, mental, emotional and social the social aspect is the least important to me personally in any relationship as I feel that it doesn't really effect your relationship in anyway having social anxiety and could only effect your enjoyment if you wanted to go out with that person but they are too nervous but you can easily compromise with that by staying in or going somewhere with not many people so it personally wouldn't be too big of an issue at all for me.

pepperhicks · Answer

I have social anxiety to the point that I need medication for it. It was a pain in the ass for my ex and now is a pain for my new girl. If you love the person and have the patience, you can work through it of course, but it is no picnic especially if the person is not being treated for it.

Futureboy · Answer

Yes because I too suffer from social and sexual anxiety. Maybe it is because I hate the norm of being surrounded by drunken idiots in a nightclub. I hate the awfull music. I much prefer a quiet pub but problem is you can not exactly meet young single women there can you?

Anonymous · Answer

It depends, if you think it’s “too much work” to date them then don’t cause they need better than you, and if you would date them , yes it will be difficult sometimes, but thats why you help them through it.
Social anxiety is not something we ask for, we don’t like being how we are, if you think it’s hard to deal with dating someone with social anxiety, try imagining living your everyday like as a person who suffers from it.

BEasy007 · Answer

I actually am in a relationship with somebody with severe social anxiety. now on that since nobody said it was going to be easy nobody said it was going to be fun but if you really respect somebody and really love somebody you are there for them no matter what. What they can't take in life you being there better half should be there to take what they can't. and if you can't do that or you don't love them enough to do that then you should not be in a relationship with that person. The woman I'm in a relationship with also has borderline personality disorder which is a extremely hard thing to deal with, she spends money without a care in the world, she chat with other guys online or on messenger or SnapChat, her mood changes about 450 billion times a day! I would not have it any other way!!!

mojj0 · Answer

I would date them, as part of dating them I'd see if they were wanting to change or not then need to decide if I would go on another date with them... you can support a person who what's to change, if they feel they can't then you need to decide how that will impact your life as you can't make someone change.

WadeDanielSmith2 · Answer

I have social anxiety, and it's a lot worse than whoever wrote that symptoms list.

I don't plan on dating a woman with social anxiety, because i need a woman who is a good communicator. It wouldn't make sense for two people with social anxiety to date one another.

CashMoneyElias · Answer

I think anti social behaviour and anxiety comes from using the internet and spending more time online than interacting with people. I have notice one thing common in the outgoing that they are always in company of someone. On the other hand introverts stay more on phone or video games.

jasontheasian · Answer

Well me personally, i was extremely anxious during any social events as a kid. I was basically a shut in for all of my school years and never really talked to anyone. I would date someone with social anxiety because that disorder doesn't define them, but rather limits them. And after a bit of time passes, they can grow to be more confident in their social life.

jassa669 · Answer

Such person, first of all should try to join sports more it will give him confidence when he will win or gather with other people in sports. This will provide him everything like social skills and how to deal with people, good health as well. Physically as well as mentally.

Spyke_34 · Answer

Yes and I have, I'm that way myself, but being with her helped me focus more & worry a lot less which was the same for her too, everyone is different which isn't a bad thing, just made things mean more to us at the time as we took more in with focusing on eachother rather than the people around us when we'd go out... Sadly I'm Single again & have been a while as find it super hard to try talk to females, especially attractive females 😅

ChaleGeorgeThis · Answer

Why not? She might be the best among the other girls but she lack the confidence to step out of her shell. Maybe I might help her with that. I don't need to force her but to show love and care to her when she needs it. They are the best!

flamiE · Answer

Yeah why not, I might not have 100% social anxiety but I’d lie if I say I’m comfortable when it comes to social interactions. Also I absolutely love staying at home so it’d be a win-win situation for the both of us.

DellBell · Answer

I suffer from generalised anxiety and a bit of social... probably wouldn't date someone that has it though... I want a guy that will keep me relaxed and comfortable... not one that also freaks out because that doesn't help...

Dongtai · Answer

If she’s actively working through it and getting help, yes.

If she’s like most who let’s if control her life and not try to get help, absolutely not. Been there done that. Those types of relationships will usually be toxic.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

I would be ok with dating a girl like this. if I like her personality. I am kind of anti-social myself anyway. much rather a quiet evening at home. then going out and dealing with people I don't like.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

I AM someone that suffers from it. I'm not sure how I'd deal with someone else that suffers from it too. On one hand I feel like they'd really get me. But on the other, I don't feel like we'd help each other out of our comfort zones.

TheAfrikan · Answer

❕ well I would date them with no any fear. So I would be pleased to even try my best, In helping her as good as I can.
That is if she is to let me in, Sinve without her openness then it would be hard for me to help.
Having anxiety or let me say depression, Stress it is all part of the life we live.
So it is normal and I can be controlled as long as you allow and stay committed in helping her/him.

BuckWild · Answer

I suffer from social anxiety. Would I date somebody else with social anxiety? I probably would if she likes to stay home and play video games. Oh yeah and if she has huge boobs.

Mynameisbobby · Answer

Yes I would because I have social anxiety and I know how lonely it can be sometimes. So I would want to be there for someone else that felt that way too. Knowing that we both were not alone and supporting each other.

potatoiswhoiam · Answer

I have it myself, although I have it more under control now. I would, cuz I know those people aren't anxious with everyone, they're usually doing great around people they feel close to.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe if it's slight. Otherwise NO!
sorry not sorry. I'm a bit of an introvert. But i force myself to NOT be one. Because while most guys are accepting of this with women. Virtually all women do not accept this with guys. Turnabout is only fair. The funny thing is it really doesn't even bother me. But i must reject her because it's a percieved weakness.

boggboss · Answer

Honestly no I don't think I would be able to I tend to have gatherings and get togethers with family and friends and don't think I would enjoy having a partner that couldn't come

sjoes006 · Answer

I think we’ll all have social anxiety after being locked up in our houses for so long.

Anonymous · Answer

I remember I made a comment on a youtube channel, expressing my anger and frustration on how it looks like guys, men, are the only gender in life that have to be the ones to get this issue handled, and a guy made a responding comment to me that really pissed me off. Because its quite obvious as to why a girl with social anxiety is far more likely to get a boyfriend than the other way around.

Vinnie46101 · Answer

Yes, because no matter what her issues are she is still a human being with a personality and it's that part I want to be with.

SaintsSinners · Answer

Definitely yes. Even when she tells me that she have a social anxiety. We all have our problems and most of the time you can solve them better when you get help, love and understanding.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

I would as long as I know they are taking their medication and would not become upset with me if I asked them if they need this or that ! thanks

Lost_Spark · Answer

Yes, don't see why not! I would try help them overcome but would not be a deal breaker if they couldn't

Bluemax · Answer

It's not out of the question, but I would prefer not to.

Justeenie · Answer

Gosh, I bet that would be difficult. I'd give it a try, but if it caused all sorts of terribleness I'd cut loose.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I'm between shyness and social anxiety. And believe me its very hard. I'm ok to talk openly with maximum 3 people at once. Talking to girls is very difficult. I would date someone equal but

Fanglite2 · Answer

Yes I would date someone who has social anxiety. I have it and my girlfriend also has it.

dmvgirl16 · Answer

I would date someone who suffers from social anxiety and have dated someone with social anxiety

KatQueen1313 · Answer

I have social anxiety and I'm just here to read the comments.

DrMeow · Answer

If person can help handle and cope with it, being comfortable about it. If not then probs no.

Jjpayne · Answer

I would but I could not let it stop me from being social though...

SphynxUK · Answer

Yes, but it’s not always a good idea if you both have it. How do I know? Personal experience.

MrTuxedo · Answer

A partner I couldn't go out for longer than 5 minutes? Sorry, but I would have to pass.

zagor · Answer

Hmm, I keep thinking of the episodes of "The Big Bang Theory" where Raj dates the girl with social anxiety who sneaks out the bathroom window while they're on a date.

blondfrog · Answer

Nah I'll past. I am not a fixer more of a person who just wants to find someone I can screw around with the rest of my life. Too much baggage with those type of people.

Janae_ · Answer

Hell no. Being the type of person that I am. I think that any type of anxiety can be overcome.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I wouldn't rule it out but it would depend on how things were.

Thegodfather64 · Answer

Yes i would people that suffer from any condition related to mental health need love just like anyone else. Just because they suffer doesn't make bad people.

Avicenna · Answer

Probably, as long as I could be reassured it wouldn't affect the relationship much

Thisperson98 · Answer

Sure, personally I don't care if they have social anxiety. I pretty sure I have it.

Nik1hil · Answer

Gladly I would love having a socially anxious Girl as my Girlfriend!..

PaganWarrior · Answer

Yes. I suffer from it myself so I know what it's like. I'm also shy, but my friends laugh when I say that o. o

DonCachondo · Answer

My guess is that most people aren't up to the task, but among those who can handle a partner with social anxiety, straight men are far more forgiving than straight women.

FanticSoul · Answer

Yeah why not it's happened I know many girls who suffering from this kind of situation. if your relationship go smoothly maybe eventually u can help her in her suffering.

Laraitta · Answer

As a person who suffered from social anxiety and then recovered finally, I don't advice someone to. I would reappear and disappear on them a lot due to fear of them hurting me.

Branden315 · Answer

As an introvert, not at all... So long as she can learn to be comfortable around me

COMMODOREII · Answer

No i will not. I want to date for me now. No more trying to be the white knight. It never worked for me and i was abused for it.

alance99 · Answer

I never dated someone with social anxiety so i would definitly give it a try and i hope i can help her overcome all her problems

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

As a person who has social anxiety I would date a person with social anxiety do we can just stay at home and cuddle together while we watch movies all night long

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