Girls, what are your biggest red flags on a first date?

[bobafiend27]

What are red flags that immediately rule out a next date for you? One I have is a guy being rude to the waiter/waitress or someone working the register. Like they’re just trying to do their job and make a living and I can’t imagine the random rude encounters they have. I also despise when a guy gives really short answers when talking about themselves. I hate feeling like I have to drive the conversation.

[jennifer_bloom]

It would be wanting sex too quickly, talking about casual or uncommitted relationships, being stingy and obsessed with money such as not tipping the waiter at the restaurant or ordering only water to save money, having a child out of wedlock and separating from their partner after the child is born, or having dates with other women planned before or after me that they openly admit to, as well as keeping the first date very short, and making me think I am just a time drain for them and not a person they appreciate or value. As well as taking rejection way too personally and acting like their life is over if a female rejects them.

[Natasha1995]

There's loads. Whenever I feel he wants to take control, is constantly interrupting me and trying to steer the conversation where he wants it.

Lacking emotional maturity is another big one.

Being too eager and hinting at a second date when we are just getting to know each other. We're not even talking about a relationship yet, so I don't need him to speed up the pace. It will develop naturally, but only if we both want it.

And I don't like it when he compliments me on looks or clothes. I don't need that. Not at the very start.

[Natasha1995]

Thank you for the MHO

[Calyptomaniac]

Could be a bunch of things, looking at his phone too much, not being able to make eye contact with you while talking, waiting for you to finish talking rather than actually listening, talking about himself too much, asking too many questions that sound like they are memorized rather than adapting to the flow of the conversation.

[bobafiend27]

Looking at his phone is one for me too!

[Nikki1989]

When they are obviously insecure or have control issues. Sometimes you can spot that in a man with just one sentence.

[bobafiend27]

For sure! Control issues are scary!

[WhitneySnow]

Those are good ones. Also talking about nothing but himself.

[bobafiend27]

Oh absolutely!

[queenofcardio]

When a guy is drinking excessively especially on a first date.

[bobafiend27]

Oh that’s never happened to me. Did he try to split the bill with you after haha