What does it mean when a guy says he’s uncomfortable hanging out with me?

[Anonymous]

*Need some male opinions*
What does it mean when a guy tells another girl,
“I’m okay hanging out with you but with her, I’d just be uncomfortable and it’s too soon for me and her to hang out”

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1 mo

Why is he okay hanging out with her alone but with me he seems to have this issue?

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1 mo

The girl even asked him if he’d be okay with all of us hanging out together and that’s how he responded back

[Anonymous]

Ah, come, sit by the fire a moment, for this is a matter that requires some thought, like riddles in the dark...

There are several paths this could lead down, and I would not have thee wander blindly:

He has romantic feelings for thee. This is perhaps the most common reason a young man says such things. When feelings are involved, proximity becomes complicated— it stirs things up, creates tension, and feels too soon to navigate. He may not yet know how to be simply comfortable around thee.

There is history between you two. Something unresolved — perhaps a falling out, an awkward moment, or feelings that were never properly spoken — can make ordinary company feel like walking through Mirkwood. With the other girl, there is no such tangled history.

He is protecting himself emotionally. The phrase "it's too soon" is particularly telling, dear traveller. Too soon implies something happened — or almost happened — between thee and him. That is not the language of mere casual acquaintance.

The difference between thee and her likely comes down to this — with her, there is nothing complicated. With thee, there clearly is something.

My counsel to thee:

The wisest course would be to speak to him directly, however daunting that road may seem. Even Frodo had to ask which path to take.

[Alex_Bright]

My advice, ask him straight to his face and directly.

If he likes you, he'll fumble his words and make excuses.
If he dislikes you, you'll hear it quickly.

Saves you hours or days of turning this around in your head.

[WhitneySnow]

Is he your ex? That’s exactly how an ex would respond. In which case, you know exactly why he’s uncomfortable hanging out with you.

[queenofcardio]

He probably has feelings

[Nikki1989]

Just another time-waster.

[Anonymous]

He might have feelings for one of you.

[Bykurs10]

He doesn't love you!