What does this communicate?

[Anonymous]

My stunning girlfriend of 4months broke up with me and she listed a lot of reasons. It was a very intense relationship and I apologised and agreed with her on things and promised her I’d do better.

I didn’t beg her but acted scared of losing her. In the end no amount of convincing worked. I also feel like it made me pathetic as she was quite mean to me and I was accepting everything she said to try and retain her.

She said we could still be friends. I said no.

I told her to never contact me again, proceeded to remove her off of instagram. It’s been a month and I’ve not messaged her once and she has not been in contact. If she really likes me she still can get in touch I guess.

What do my actions communicate?

Your actions do communicate strength

Your actions communicate weakness

[WhitneySnow]

Doesn’t matter. If she hasn’t reached out, she’s clearly not interested in getting back together with you.

[Asker]

Correct. Do you think I communicated weakness in the end

[WhitneySnow]

No..

[Asker]

Do you think it’s strength that I didn’t bother chasing, got rid of her and sent no essays?

[WhitneySnow]

Yes.

[Nikki1989]

Even if you felt "pathetic" during the breakup itself, your follow-up actions entirely changed the narrative. Now you can lick your wounds and deal with it.

[Alex-Snow]

She ended the relationship and it sounds like you responded correctly and plan to move on.

[NathanDavis]

immaturity

[Asker]

Why?

[NathanDavis]

because it is polluted with ruminating thoughts and ideas...

the description also indicates a serious lack of balance and introspection, usually from a lack of experience or a failure to learn from experience

and all this points out to... immaturity

on the other side though... very good chances to learn some lessons, we all were there at some point

[Anonymous]

How does she look